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Re: [chicago alanon] Just needed somebody to listen

Hi,
I feel for you. It's so hard when children are involved. My kids were 6 months
and 2 when my husband was full blown addicted to crack. I personally would be
honest with your son but I am not in your position so I can't really comment. I
hope all goes well and just know that a stranger far away is thinking of you.

Wendy <wendyfabrizi@...> wrote:
Hi there: I haven't been online for a long time but right now I need
somebody to listen. I don't know if anybody is out there but this
feels right. How do you tell a 11 year old that his Dad's family
doesn't want anything to do with him because of his Dad. My son
asked me today why he doesn't see his Dad's side of the family but
sees my side alot. My ex and I have been seperated 2 years now and
my ex is an alcholic. I didn't know exactly what to tell him so I
made a phone call to his uncle and left a message. Then I called his
cousin and left a message as well. I know the reason why his Dad's
side of the family doesn't want anything to do with us but how do you
tell him the reason. His Dad has made some big mistakes in his life
and his family hold that against him. When my ex threatened to kill
me and I reported this to the police his family kind of disowned me.
I have E-Mailed my ex's nephew and tried to get in touch with other
members but they just don't want to get in touch with me. My son
really wants to know his uncle and cousins but I don't know exactly
what to tell him. I think it is sad that my ex's side of the family
doesn't want to have contact with my son. I can understand why they
don't want to have contact with me because I caused some problem with
the family. It wasn't my ex's fault but mine. I wish I know how
some people think. Anyway if anybody can help me with how to tell my
son why his relatives have written us off please let me know. I know
it is their loss because they will never know how fantastic my son is.

Anyway that's all for now.

Wendy






Lori

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Hi there: I haven't been online for a long time but right now I need somebody to listen. I don't know if anybody is out there but this feels right. How do...
Wendy
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Jul 21, 2007
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Hi Wendy, all, Well, I shy from direct advice, due to the nature of the format here. I can share on some similarities and very much, take what you want leave...
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Jul 22, 2007
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Thanks Pam: That has helped me alot. I finally decided to tell my son today and he took it pretty good. I told him that his Dad's side of the family was...
Wendy Fabrizi
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Jul 22, 2007
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Congrats, and glad it was helpful. Definitley, their loss, :) P ... _________________________________________________________________ Don't get caught with egg...
Pam Disponett
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Jul 23, 2007
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Don't you know it. Thanks again Wendy...
Wendy Fabrizi
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Jul 23, 2007
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I have experienced somewhat the same from my ex's family. It is emotionally defensive on their part, often easier to hold accountable an "outsider" than...
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Jul 23, 2007
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Hi, I feel for you. It's so hard when children are involved. My kids were 6 months and 2 when my husband was full blown addicted to crack. I personally would...
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