Don't you know it. Thanks again
Wendy



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> To: chicagoalanon@yahoogroups.com
> From: pdisponett@...
> Date: Mon, 23 Jul 2007 15:28:18 +0000
> Subject: RE: [chicago alanon] Just needed somebody to listen
>
> Congrats, and glad it was helpful. Definitley, their loss, :)
> P
>
>
> >From: Wendy Fabrizi
> >Reply-To: chicagoalanon@yahoogroups.com
> >To:
> >Subject: RE: [chicago alanon] Just needed somebody to listen
> >Date: Sun, 22 Jul 2007 19:22:13 -0400
> >
> >Thanks Pam: That has helped me alot. I finally decided to tell my son
> >today and he took it pretty good. I told him that his Dad's side of the
> >family was missing out on getting to know a fantastic person and that
> >was their problem not ours. Thanks for the E-Mail it helped me phrase
> >what I had to say better.
> >Anyway God be with you.
> >
> >Wendy
> >
> >
> >To: chicagoalanon@...: pdisponett@...: Sun, 22
> >Jul 2007 13:28:14 +0000Subject: RE: [chicago alanon] Just needed somebody
> >to listen
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >Hi Wendy, all,Well, I shy from direct advice, due to the nature of the
> >format here. I can share on some similarities and very much, take what you
> >want leave the rest.I think it comes down to we can't control what others
> >do, and that others do what they do out of what's going on with them, not
> >necessarily anything to do with "me". I know I've had conversations with my
> >step-daughter, neice and others where that was the theme, that their parent
> >or another relative had done/said something that was hurtful/neglectful. My
> >focus has always been to reassure them of their worth, try not to badmouth
> >the other person, and explain that others do what they do for reasons that
> >don't necessarily have anything to do with me or the person I was talking
> >with. One thing I learned is that all I can do is my part, others either do
> >or don't do theirs. If they do, we can have a relationship, if not, well,
> >it's just not possible and all I can do is be realistic about what is
> >reasonable to ask/expect from others, given who they are.Hope this is
> >helpful and all the best,Pam>From: "Wendy"
> >>Reply-To: chicagoalanon@yahoogroups.com>To:
> >chicagoalanon@yahoogroups.com>Subject: [chicago alanon] Just needed
> >somebody to listen>Date: Sat, 21 Jul 2007 23:41:29 -0000>>Hi there: I
> >haven't been online for a long time but right now I need>somebody to
> >listen. I don't know if anybody is out there but this>feels right. How do
> >you tell a 11 year old that his Dad's family>doesn't want anything to do
> >with him because of his Dad. My son>asked me today why he doesn't see his
> >Dad's side of the family but>sees my side alot. My ex and I have been
> >seperated 2 years now and>my ex is an alcholic. I didn't know exactly what
> >to tell him so I>made a phone call to his uncle and left a message. Then I
> >called his>cousin and left a message as well. I know the reason why his
> >Dad's>side of the family doesn't want anything to do with us but how do
> >you>tell him the reason. His Dad has made some big mistakes in his life>and
> >his family hold that against him. When my ex threatened to kill>me and I
> >reported this to the police his family kind of disowned me.>I have E-Mailed
> >my ex's nephew and tried to get in touch with other>members but they just
> >don't want to get in touch with me. My son>really wants to know his uncle
> >and cousins but I don't know exactly>what to tell him. I think it is sad
> >that my ex's side of the family>doesn't want to have contact with my son. I
> >can understand why they>don't want to have contact with me because I caused
> >some problem with>the family. It wasn't my ex's fault but mine. I wish I
> >know how>some people think. Anyway if anybody can help me with how to tell
> >my>son why his relatives have written us off please let me know. I know>it
> >is their loss because they will never know how fantastic my son is.>>Anyway
> >that's all for
>
>now.>>Wendy>__________________________________________________________http://li\
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> >
> >
> >[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
> >
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