Thanks for the E-Mail. I realize that what I did was right for me and my son.
My son just got over being angry with me for it and is now a happy 11 year old
but now he has the hurt of other people that he thought loved him rejecting him.
He seemed to accept the fact that it was not him but myself and his Dad actions
that stopped them from contacting us. It still hurt him and I am praying that
with Alateen and his therapist he can work it out and will be the happy boy that
I have seen daily.

Anyway thanks again for the support.

Wendy



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> To: chicagoalanon@yahoogroups.com
> From: aviarian@...
> Date: Mon, 23 Jul 2007 02:11:45 +0000
> Subject: [chicago alanon] Re: Just needed somebody to listen
>
> I have experienced somewhat the same from my ex's family. It is
> emotionally defensive on their part, often easier to hold accountable
> an "outsider" than family, especially a family that knows the pain of
> addiction and the shameful secrets it often produces.
> Please do NOT use their view of you as a mirror. You were well within
> your rights to report harm done you to protect yourself and your
> child.
> --- In chicagoalanon@yahoogroups.com, "Wendy"
> wrote:
> >
> > Hi there: I haven't been online for a long time but right now I
> need
> > somebody to listen. I don't know if anybody is out there but this
> > feels right. How do you tell a 11 year old that his Dad's family
> > doesn't want anything to do with him because of his Dad. My son
> > asked me today why he doesn't see his Dad's side of the family but
> > sees my side alot. My ex and I have been seperated 2 years now and
> > my ex is an alcholic. I didn't know exactly what to tell him so I
> > made a phone call to his uncle and left a message. Then I called
> his
> > cousin and left a message as well. I know the reason why his Dad's
> > side of the family doesn't want anything to do with us but how do
> you
> > tell him the reason. His Dad has made some big mistakes in his
> life
> > and his family hold that against him. When my ex threatened to
> kill
> > me and I reported this to the police his family kind of disowned
> me.
> > I have E-Mailed my ex's nephew and tried to get in touch with other
> > members but they just don't want to get in touch with me. My son
> > really wants to know his uncle and cousins but I don't know exactly
> > what to tell him. I think it is sad that my ex's side of the
> family
> > doesn't want to have contact with my son. I can understand why
> they
> > don't want to have contact with me because I caused some problem
> with
> > the family. It wasn't my ex's fault but mine. I wish I know how
> > some people think. Anyway if anybody can help me with how to tell
> my
> > son why his relatives have written us off please let me know. I
> know
> > it is their loss because they will never know how fantastic my son
> is.
> >
> > Anyway that's all for now.
> >
> > Wendy
> >
>