--- In chicagoalanon@yahoogroups.com, blonde_97_1997 wrote:
>whoever you are.ty.I read your letter or message....I have been
sitting here wondering how to walk away from my guy.his drinking
hurts me.but now I see al anon will teach me the right moves.if I
want to stay with him.ty a million times
> The fact that you came to this message board
> shows that you are in need of help and you've come to
> the right place. In lieu of what you did to "destroy"
> christmas, I've done worse, to my hubby....no...to myself
> cause when I hurt and destruct and yell and loose my
> control, I hurt myself more than anyone else. The most
> difficult thing for me is to "let go" "detach" and all that
> stuff but I"m learning how to in small steps and I'm
> feeling good about it. I was a pretty big mess when I
> came here a few weeks ago, and although I'm a far cry
> from being anywhere near where I want to be....I've
> come a long way. <br>One very dear person here, told
> me to RUN, NOT WALK to the nearest Al Anon meeting
> so I did. There, a very dear person came up to me, a
> total stranger, and told me it was OK to love an
> alcohlic. That in itself made me feel like a weight had
> been lifted off my shoulders......someone who knew
> what I was going through told me I wasn't stupid, or
> dumb to love my A, for the first time someone didn't
> react to my story by telling me to leave the drunk, get
> rid of him and so on. SO, here I am today, working my
> program (or at least doing the best I can at the moment)
> and trying to be loving and supportive of my A.
> Many,many days I have to work it an hour at a time,
> sometimes even a min at a time but it works......thank god
> it works. The serenity prayers is great for me, but
> the last few days a song my dad used to sing to me
> has been in my head, I can't get rid of it and I know
> my higher power has put it there.<br><br>One day at
> a time, sweet Jesus<br>That's all I'm asking of
> you<br>Just give me the strength to do every day what I have
> to do<br>Yesterday's gone sweet Jesus<br>And
> tomorrow may never be mine<br>So for my sake, teach me to
> take, one day at a time.<br><br>Contact me anytime you
> need to talk or vent or yell and scream or cry.....my
> e-mail is smatcham@... and my yahoo messenger
> handle is blonde_97_1997.<br><br>Forgive yourself and
> then you'll be able to forgive others. You're worth
> it!!!!<br><br>Mab
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