Hi, my name is Amy, and I joined this group last week. I am mom to a
14 year old boy, and a 10 month old girl. I have been with my
daughter's father for 4 1/2 years, and he is an alcoholic, but seemed
to get much worse once our daughter was born. After a particularily
bad night about a month ago, I decided it was time to leave (we aren't
married) before my baby girl gets old enough to be affected by the
drinking, fighting, etc. I am very lucky in that my mother is buying a
duplex and we are closing on it next Tuesday. In this last month,
things have calmed down with my boyfriend, but I know this is only
short lived and I can't change him, or his 20 year habit. I'm hoping
to meet some friends here, people who will understand that I'm not over-
reacting or being 'stupid' to leave this man. (He's quite wealthy).
Maybe someone here can help me with this question. Why is it so hard
to leave this relationship, even though it's terriby painful and why
does my boyfriend hate me one day and love me the next??? Thanks in
advance for reading!