Susan ,
I think there used to be weekly get togethers in the group chat room , but
i'm not sure if anyone still goes in there anymore or not .
There are 12 steps in al-anon , this is step 1 .
1) "We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol and that our lives have
become unmanageable. "
This means we surrender and stop the battle with Alcohol that we can't win ,
this surrender will free us .
there is a good book that is used in Al-Anon called .....Courage to Change, One
day at a time in Al-Anon .
also remember the Serenity prayer.....
God grant me the serenity to accept the things i can not change , Courage to
change the things i can , And the wisdom to know the difference .

Susan you are always welcome to post here anytime you need a friend , it was
my pleasure to meet you .
keep in touch ,
Henry


Susan Wendt <susanroo61@...> wrote:
Henry, I want to thank you. You did help me with what you had to say. You made a
lot of sense to me. It does help knowing others understand. And, yes I do think
I need help also because of how it has affected me. The drinking affects so many
things. I even look at myself differently now. I'm starting to see myself in my
husbands eyes. And that is a bad thing. He sees me differently when he drinks,
and has said so many hurtful things to me. He has lied.And it is my choice how I
react during a disagreement. I usually let my anger and resentment take over,
and that doesn't solve anything. And you nailed it on the head when you said you
can't win when fighting with a drunk. I've been with my husband since 1998, been
married for a little over 2 years. I saw the signs but didn't want to admit it
to myself. Then I thought I could just fix the problem, boy was I ever wrong. I
love my husband very much, but I hate the way his drinking changes him. All I
know is that you made me feel so not
alone and it helped so much that you understood. Thank you for taking the time
to respond to my letter. Like I said in my letter this is the first group for
me, so I have no clue what to do. Is it all my just e-mails? I guess I'll learn
as I go. Thanks again for your help. I hope you have a good night.

Susan





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