Hi and thank you for the Holiday greetings Henry....Same to you!
I can relate to that yes and no thing....When we feel guilty for
saying no...this makes us easily manipulated by people including our
alcoholics. But you have the key there...acting in our own best
interest. We have to remember to take care of me first, and know that
sometimes we have to say no to do this. I am thinking that it gets
easier with practice. And maybe someday we are comfortable with it
lol. Hugs, susie


--- In chicagoalanon@yahoogroups.com, "Henry" <henrym64@y...> wrote:
>
> i'd like to wish everone a Merry Christmas and Happy ,Healthy New
> Year . I have one little defect of character i'm ready for God to
> remove .....saying yes when i want to say no , or saying no and
> feeling guilty for it . maybe thats 2 defects .....lol
>
> todays reminder from.... One day at a time in Al-anon II
> it can be very empowering to take responsability for my own
choices .
> i will act in my own best interest today .
>
>
> "I would do well to accept the challenge to look to my own recovery
> before i spend any more of my precious life wishing the alcoholic
> would change... "
>
> Living with Sobriety
>
> Peace be with you all
> Henry