I think you have some good thoughts there Maura,
My heart feels for you because I know I was in your place once. No
one can tell you what to do but yourself. But your safety is a big
concern to me. I am not sure that you are safe there. Please let
your family and friends know what is going on. So you are not alone.
Know I am thinking of you and praying for you, susie



--- In chicagoalanon@yahoogroups.com, "maura_aparicio"
<maura_aparicio@y...> wrote:
> Thanks for all the good advise. I have been considered the idea of
> leaving him. I have lost all my friends and the freedom I once
> enjoyed so much. I know have a hard time living the house for fear
> that he will do something. But it's time that I stood up for
myself.
> I deserve better then that. I deserve to be happy and loved. But
> even knowing all of this I am still afraid of leaving. I am afraid
> that I am co-dependent. Sorry I know I ma co-dependent. But I have
> made the decision that I wish to break this cycle. Even if it means
> I will lose the man I love I come first. I need to be happy before
I
> can make anyone else happy. But I think the most important part is
> the fact that I cannot love a man who does not know how to love
> himself.