Search the web
Sign In
New User? Sign Up
chicagoalanon · chicago alanon - Al-Anon Spoken Here
? Already a member? Sign in to Yahoo!

Yahoo! Groups Tips

Did you know...
Real people. Real stories. See how Yahoo! Groups impacts members worldwide.

Best of Y! Groups

   Check them out and nominate your group.
Having problems with message search? Fill out this form to ensure your group is one of the first to be migrated to the new message search system.

Messages

  Messages Help
Advanced
beginner   Message List  
Reply | Forward Message #3055 of 3524 |
Hello, all. Does anyone have info on where to go in Near North
suburbs for good beginner meeting and how to find when they hold one?
Tried on line directory but they don't list beginner mtgs. This
seems a good alternative but does participation drop off in summer?
The postings seem light lately. Never knew there are 12 steps for
the partner of the alcoholic and hope to gain strength in coping with
a binge drinker of 20 yrs. Like many, I suspect, he's a good guy
when sober, employment has not suffered, no legal trouble, just can't
control the binges every couple of months. A few weeks of moderate,
secret drinking leads up to the binge where he now leaves the house
for a weekend, stays in a flea-bag hotel, apologizes minimally and
returns home. He claims he does this to get back at me. He claims I
argue all the time. I'm a bit indecisive and need to think (&re-
think) many decisions and I see it as thinking to reach the best
answer, not arguing. He also says I'm controlling and suspicious.
Isn't that a natural reaction when you've had reason to? I've
covered up from our 13 yr old daughter until last time but now told
her the truth. She knew he's an alchoholic but I always covered when
he left or was sleeping one off making excuses. He says if our
marriage was better, he wouldn't drink and I say if he didn't drink
our marriage would be better. There's so much resentment in me that
built from over the last 15 yrs, I don't know if I can see my way
out. He's agreed to try counseling an AA (again) but deep down I
think he really wants out of the marriage & is just going thru the
counseling motions. Alcholism is all around me. My Dad died 2 yrs
ago from alcoholic renal failure, 2 brothers, and husband. I'd love
to hear from anyone. Thanks and I hope you're all finding hope as
well since we're all here for similar reasons!




Sat Jul 12, 2003 2:50 pm

lcd0703
Offline Offline
Send Email Send Email

Forward
Message #3055 of 3524 |
Expand Messages Author Sort by Date

Hello, all. Does anyone have info on where to go in Near North suburbs for good beginner meeting and how to find when they hold one? Tried on line directory...
lcd0703
Offline Send Email
Jul 12, 2003
2:50 pm

hi there. i really can't be any help to you on finding a meeting nearby, since i'm in st. louis, and only joined this group because i need help and support in...
spanky
spanky_stl
Offline Send Email
Jul 13, 2003
11:55 pm

Hi Beginner and Welcome to Alanon Know you are not alone....Your story seems to hit home with me too... Father, siblings, (one dead), and ex husband......I...
zuppie_2001
Offline Send Email
Jul 15, 2003
11:57 pm

Thanks for the kind words. You seem to have them for all of us in need! I'm trying to muster up the courage for that 1st meeting. I'm sure I won't be able...
lcd0703
Offline Send Email
Jul 17, 2003
6:10 am
Advanced

Copyright © 2009 Yahoo! Inc. All rights reserved.
Privacy Policy - Terms of Service - Guidelines - Help