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--- In chicagoalanon@yahoogroups.com, linda snead <dixi29706@y...>
wrote:
>
> Hi.....I cried when I read the letter from flamingo.....the only
difference is that I divorced the abusive husband after 20
years....but still struggle with the pain I suffered during those
years......now I am dealing with an alcoholic son who has no desire
to quit......and another son who is in rewcovery for drugs and
alcohol......I blame myself fortheir addictions because I stayed for
so long....I am going to my first al-anon meeting the first Tuesday
in April....and am very nervous.....He destroyed my self esteme and
all confidence I had......It has been17 years and I am still crippled
emotionaly......I pray that al-anon can help me......but flamingo I
am going to give you my email address feel free to use it any
time......I would love to hear from you.....Dixi29706@y... care!!
>
> flaminjo <no_reply@yahoogroups.com> wrote:I'd love to hear from
anyone who's had, or heard of the similar
> struggle I'm going through with my husband.
>
> Although I've never seen him falling down drunk in the 7yrs we've
> been together, I've always been concerned as to the amount he does
> drink. Last year I called an Al-Anon helpline to talk to someone
to
> find out if I really had a need to worry or not. I found that I
had.
>
> I'm dealing with it better for the moment, but my real problem is
> his addiction to chat rooms & chatting up women on the mobile.
It's
> devastated me to find him trying to go as far as he can with them.
> He did stop doing in front of me for while. Cutting down on his
> drinking does not help with this, nor his obnoxious attitude toward
> me. (Snores a little less though. LOL)
>
> Before Xmas he ran up a £200.00 mobile bill - talking to 'new
> mates', 1 no. in particular dominated the bill. Xmas Eve I
> discovered an 'old mate' was a woman he met in the chat rooms. He
> said we could no longer stay together. A month later I found he'd
> been sneaking out @ night to meet her & taking time off work. Her
> continuous calls, texts & chatting on the net to him were extremely
> intrusive. He continued to run up more horendous bills till I
> confiscated the phone & his credit card - which are both in MY name.
>
> I told him I wanted him to leave, & despite his constant threats
> that he's leaving, he won't go. He said he "wanted to get things
> back on track". I'm having a hard time dealing with the alien he's
> become. Till a few months ago, I was still madly in love with
him.
> Now I'm so hurt & humiliated.
>
> Al Anon meetings are my life saver. At the moment I could'nt cope
> without them. I've gained so much strength, & learning to be
> happy. I'm meeting wonderful people. I'm learning about the
> illness & how to deal with it. I've got some hope from the chaos
> in.
>
> Learning about detatchment's helped enormously. I don't get so
> wound up now, but this unacceptable behaviour is damaging & I don't
> know yet how else to deal with it. Let go & let God is another
> saying that helps me. Reading Al Anon literature is also a big
> help.
>
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