I'd love to hear from anyone who's had, or heard of the similar
struggle I'm going through with my husband.

Although I've never seen him falling down drunk in the 7yrs we've
been together, I've always been concerned as to the amount he does
drink. Last year I called an Al-Anon helpline to talk to someone to
find out if I really had a need to worry or not. I found that I had.

I'm dealing with it better for the moment, but my real problem is
his addiction to chat rooms & chatting up women on the mobile. It's
devastated me to find him trying to go as far as he can with them.
He did stop doing in front of me for while. Cutting down on his
drinking does not help with this, nor his obnoxious attitude toward
me. (Snores a little less though. LOL)

Before Xmas he ran up a £200.00 mobile bill - talking to 'new
mates', 1 no. in particular dominated the bill. Xmas Eve I
discovered an 'old mate' was a woman he met in the chat rooms. He
said we could no longer stay together. A month later I found he'd
been sneaking out @ night to meet her & taking time off work. Her
continuous calls, texts & chatting on the net to him were extremely
intrusive. He continued to run up more horendous bills till I
confiscated the phone & his credit card - which are both in MY name.

I told him I wanted him to leave, & despite his constant threats
that he's leaving, he won't go. He said he "wanted to get things
back on track". I'm having a hard time dealing with the alien he's
become. Till a few months ago, I was still madly in love with him.
Now I'm so hurt & humiliated.

Al Anon meetings are my life saver. At the moment I could'nt cope
without them. I've gained so much strength, & learning to be
happy. I'm meeting wonderful people. I'm learning about the
illness & how to deal with it. I've got some hope from the chaos
in.

Learning about detatchment's helped enormously. I don't get so
wound up now, but this unacceptable behaviour is damaging & I don't
know yet how else to deal with it. Let go & let God is another
saying that helps me. Reading Al Anon literature is also a big
help.