Hi and welcome to chicagoalanon-

We hear you and we're listening. It's not easy dealing with
alcoholics. Living with them is even harder. The main thing I've
learned from Al-anon is to detach and focus on myself. Have you
gotten to any meetings yet? They do help. Reading the books also can
help. There's no easy answer to any of it. All you can do is your
best each day, one day at a time. Hang in there and write anytime
about anything you want and somebody will reply. Maybe not right
away, but eventually. We're all in the same boat. Things get tough,
then better and on and on it goes. Keep your chin up and know that
you aren't alone.

Take care,
Cindy