Glad you found the conflict management workbook/manual helpful Kayce.
Thanks for your comments and for your (as usual!) candid self-honesty.

There are many ways of living and a variety of viable choices about
how much conflict we are comfortable with, and how much and what
quality of conflict will create the life and relationships that we
desire. For this reason the questionnaire part avoids any attempt at
setting "benchmark" or "normal and healthy" standards, although I
have set out some very pointed background research findings here:
www.sunflower-health.com/hostility.htm

Instead of setting standards, the questionnaire helps us get clearer
about the extent and nature of conflict in our lives, and the impact
it has on our confidence, happiness, health and relationships. From
this sense of "where I am now" we can decide where we might like to
make some changes...

The rest of the workbook/manual looks at ways of changing our
situation, and in the workshop itself we used a variety of exercises
drawn from psychodrama, cognitive therapy, Tai chi etc to explore and
experience change sin our usual involvement in, and reactivity to,
conflict situations.

An expanded version of the workbook/manual can now be purchased
online as an e-book supplied by email, see:
www.sunflower-health.com/workshops.htm


Best wishes
Mike Meredith