Hi again. I think it depends on how big the problem is. If it's a BIG
issue in your life, you can't avoid it by listening to music, if it's
an argument from the past replaying in your head, then I think it's a
great idea to put on something uplifting, it interrupts the pattern.

It almost seems like you sometimes associate guilt to feeling happy.
Its as if your brain says, "wait a sec, I'm happy - isn't there
something I should be worrying about?" These next seven days will help
as you break this pattern every time it arises and so, like a
scratched record, it may never play the same again.

Don't ever feel guilty for being happy, it's your right, it's
everyone's. I also find it very helpful to actually try to love the
people that might otherwise get me down, generate the feeling within
yourself while picturing them, it fades away. Eventually, it goes for
good.

Mark
http://www.buildyourlifetoorder.com


--- In bylto@yahoogroups.com, "theflyingman2003" <afoong@...> wrote:
>
> Sorry if it seems like I'm having a whinge, i'm not really, more
> seeing if anyone has any suggestions...
>
> as mentioned my biggest weakness for years is that I obsessively
> replay certain phrases or relive certain movies in my head. I spent
> the whole day catching these thoughts while I'm out and about, and
> replacing them with positive affirmations "My mind is clear and
peaceful"
>
> The Good: When I'm in a good mood the movies/phrases that pop in are
> also good. When they are not, I am present enough to catch them.
>
> The Bad: I'm rushing work for a client, and hence I am up way past my
> bedtime. It's nearly 3am where I am, and I just got done. When I was
> working, I was sleepy and trying to concentrate more on my work. Hence
> the voice in my head (i'm a graphic / web designer) went more like this:
>
> "i think i need more color here - now i hate you! - i think i need a
> darker shade here - i have no feelings for you anymore! - how about
> this shade"
>
> The phrases in between work thoughts are things that my ex-gf yelled
> at me during our breakup argument.
>
> I try to let them slide by and not affect me. Once in a while, I pause
> and close my eyes. I can sense the negative emotions as the result of
> these thoughts "coming in under the radar" so to speak build up, so I
> close my eyes and lift my spirits.
>
> That seems to work, I finished my hours of work only slightly upset,
> and alternating between feeling OK and slightly upset due to my pauses.
>
> So right now this is my biggest problem.
>
> Oh and another question: does anyone find that using music is a cop
> out? If I am silent in my room, the images pop in with frightening
> regularity: every couple of minutes, it seems. With music, it's not -
> or maybe I just don't notice.
>
> Do I "escape" using music, or do I sit still and face my demons?
>