Jackie, We seem to get quite a few visitors to
this club. Once or twice a week, we get someone that
joins our club thinking that it is a club for AEA
practitioners. When you look at their profiles, they are usually
listed as members of other clubs where the club name is
very obviously one of those types. I used to try to
email or yahoo messenger those people to give them a
chance to remove themselves. Now days, I usually just
delete and ban them from the club. It's a lot easier.
This club is ONLY for family and frends of those who
have died by AEA. There are plenty of other clubs on
the internet for the current
practitioners.<br><br>Other members, please jump in the converasation
whenever you feel comfortable.<br><br>Warm
Regards,<br>Bill

Who are the people who are joining this club?
Some of their profiles look kind of strange and no one
else ever seems to post anything but me and Bill. We
need to post in order to get to know each other. Tell
us about your experiences.<br>Jackie

I just was checking in to see how everyone was
doing. I wish that more of our members would post more
often. It helps to talk to others who have gone through
a similar experience. The one year death
anniversary of our son is coming up at the end of April.
There is such a feeling of heaviness in the house. For
us it is hard because we don't know the exact date.
They didn't find Nat's body for several days so we
must use the facts we know to estimate. I hate it. The
headstone came in from Italy. It is black granite and was
double the regular price but I know it is what Nat would
want. Now we have to figure out what to put on it.
<br>Love never dies.<br>Jackie, Nat's Mom

We had a nice couple of days. Marilyn and I spent
the 13th working on a new (used) boat that Dalton
would have loved. We spent all day on the 14th out on
the lake enjoying a beautiful 84 deg Arizona day.
Thank you all for your kind thoughts, words and prayers
for our family. We somehow made it through the first
year. As I look back, it's so hard to believe that it
has been a year. On the other hand, I sure feel like
I've aged much more than a year. As for the 13th, I
think the anticipation of the day was indeed much worse
than the day. <br><br>I appreciate all of you.
<br><br>Blessings, Bill

You and your family are in my thoughts and
prayers today. I know that nothing I can say helps to
ease the pain. Your son is with Jesus and you will see
him again because...<br>Love never dies.<br>Jackie

I am disappointed and surprised that FOF never
got back to you at least to acknowledge receipt of
your letter. Here are parents who are willing to talk
about this issue and bare our souls in the midst of our
pain and they don't even respond. I don't know
anything about the Oprah show. I'm not a big fan of hers.
I'll let you know if I hear anything back from FOF.
We're going to DC for the weekend so I'll check in on
Sunday evening. I hope that God will bring comfort to
your family as Monday approaches. Your son is with
Jesus and that's the best place to be. But it is so
hard for us that remain.<br>Love never dies.<br>Jackie

It's interesting that you mention Focus on the
Family. I also wrote them several months ago to ask the
same thing. Someone also told me that they "heard"
that Focus HAD written an article on the subject. I
never received any confirmation from them about a prior
article. Also Oprah supposedly did a show back in the
early or mid 80's on the subject. I've been trying to
obtain a copy of that. I've got to run for now. To be
continued.<br><br>Blessings, Bill

My heart is aching for you as next week
approaches. You are right. As the date looms near that image
that we have tried so hard to erase keeps forcing it's
way back into our minds. Because it was several days
before they found Nat we aren't even sure what day it is
which makes it more painful. I will be praying for you
and your family.<br>At first all I wanted was for it
to go away so I didn't have to think about it but
just this past week I wrote a letter to Focus on the
Family to see if they would do some research and
possibly do a radio program talking about this and warning
parents of the danger. When it first happened I looked
everywhere to get information about AEA but could only find
misinformation. I thought maybe their organization would have
access to more sources than I did.<br>Part of me just
wants to forget about it but the other part wants to
tell people and warn them. Only our closest friends
even know the truth about Nat's death so that is a
factor too. It's just such a mess. I really hate it and
I know that Nat would just be so embarrassed. So
what do you do? I wish I had an answer.<br>Love never
dies.<br>Jackie

Jackie, I keep checking the board too in hopes we
can get some good dialogue going here. I've been in
quite a few other clubs where the boards are very
active. On the other hand, I don't see a lot of activity
on childloss boards in general.<br><br>Folks, if
there's anything on your mind or heart, this is a good
place to share it. <br><br>Let me tell you all where I
am today. We are fast approaching the one-year
anniversary without Dalton (March 13). It's still so
incredibly difficult. That image that many of us share is so
indelibly etched in my mind. I guess it always will be. I
still want to do everything possible to get the message
out about AEA but sometimes I feel so helpless. I've
spoken with school faulty and parents but I don't know
if I'm making a difference. Am I? Are you? Can
we?<br><br>Any thoughts? Please feel free to post.<br><br>Bill
(DaltsDad)

to make this board more interactive? I have logged in several times but nothing
much has happened. I would like to talk to other people who have struggled with
the loss of loved ones. Thanks, Jackie

I am a new member who was invited to join by
Bill. My 20 year old son Nat died last April while he
was a junior at West Virginia University. Needless to
say it has been a year of confusion, anger and
despair for our family. As the 1 year anniversary
approaches I find that the emotions that I thought I had
under control are unraveling. I belong to several other
grief forums with wonderful people but none of them can
really understand the pain of losing a child in this
horrible, evil way. Thank you all for being here. I hope we
can comfort one another.<br>Love never
dies.<br>Jackie

I must apologize for not posting or being able to
chat much recently. It has been a tough few weeks for
us. Dalton would have turned 16 last week. Now as we
are approaching the 1-year anniversary of his death,
it seems at times that the intense pain of our loss
is as strong as ever. I know that our continuing
grief goes in cycles, but right now, we’re on a real
low. I know that the actual day (Birthday, Anniv) is
often as bad as the anticipation of it and I think
that’s what has been happening with us,, anticipating.
<br><br>I know that some of you are yahoo messenger
chatting with other members as you see them on line. I’m
glad! Please feel free to initiate a chat with any
member. This should be a safe place to share with people
who understand. Also, I think that the chat room
within the club is working well now so you might want to
try it. Please also feel free to use the message
board in our club.<br><br>I have an ongoing conflict on
Tuesday nights and will need to change the scheduled chat
to another night. I would propose moving to Thursday
nights at 10:00PM EST unless there are major concerns
with that. Please let me know.<br><br>Thank you all
for being a part of this club. I am so sorry for your
losses and that you have to be here at
all.<br><br>Blessings,<br>Bill (DaltsDad)

We will be holding a regular member chat every
Tuesday at 10PM EST. Please feel free to join us. It has
been very helpful to talk with other people that have
lost a loved one to AEA. <br><br>We have been using
"yahoo messenger" to conduct our chats as the regular
room within this club does not seem to work for all
members. I will log in to yahoo messenger a little before
10PM on Tuesdays and will initiate the chat. As long
as you are logged into "messenger", I will be able
to invite you to join in. <br>Also, please note that
you can edit your comments on the "contact" page by
adding a short personal note if you want. This will help
other members to understand your loss or why you
joined. <br>Don't forget that there is a very good "link
section" here. Please feel free to add any AEA related
links that you are aware of.<br>Also the message board
is here for any thoughts you want to share with the
group. Please use it to initiate discussions or
ideas.<br>I hope that you will all feel comfortable here and
will want to share. You are most certainly among
friends that understand your loss.<br><br>Thanks for
joining,<br>Bill (DaltsDad)

when they want to know how to talk to their kids
about AEA? <br>I was at our TCF meeting last night and
a mother asked me how she should talk to her 16
year old son about AEA. <br>One straightforward answer
I gave is: "Son, I know that you masturbate and I
need to tell you about something very dangerous". Then
explain AEA in very basic terms and very clearly explain
that IT IS LETHAL.<br>Any thoughts about this? What
have you told other people? <br><br>Bill (DaltsDad)

when they want to know how to talk to their kids
about AEA? <br>I was at our TCF meeting last night and
a mother asked me how she should talk to her 16
year old son about AEA. <br>One straightforward answer
I gave is: "Son, I know that you masturbate and I
need to tell you about something very dangerous". Then
explain AEA in very basic terms and very clearly explain
that IT IS LETHAL.<br>Any thoughts about this? What
have you told other people? <br><br>Bill (DaltsDad)

We held our first member chat last night. We had
4 members on line and we talked and cried for
almost 2 hours. Nobody wanted to leave. It was sure good
to have such understandng and compassionate people
to share with. Thank you all! I hope more people
will feel comfortable joining us as time passes. Our
regular chat schedule will be 10:00PM EST on Tuesdays,
but please feel free to invite anyone to chat
whenever you see them on-line.<br><br>Blessings, <br>Bill
(DaltsDad)

a10der, welcome to the AEA support club. I'm so
sorry for the reason that you are here but I am so glad
that you found us. There are several other members
here that have lost children to AEA. Once we have a
few more people find us, I plan to hold regular
scheduled chats right here.<br><br>Please feel free to use
the invite button under member tools to advise any
other AEA impacted families about this place. Also,
please add any appropriate web page links on ths subject
that you may be aware of.<br><br>I look forward to
chatting with you soon.<br><br>Blessings, <br>Bill
(DaltsDad)

check response to your message and let me know, Camshaft

Hi, My names camshaft, my youngest son Monty
died<br>Sept 22, 1992, the same year as your son. Monty was 18
years old when he died by AEA. You say you want to talk
to other parents, I am willing. Perhaps we could
utilize the page chat room. I am available most evenings
except Thursday, TCF work and meeting nights. Pick a
time and post it and I will try to meet you then.

Would like to talk with other parents, if possible.

I have just posted a couple of new links on this
page. These are some of the best AEA articles that I
have seen to date, clear and concise. Please check
them out at your convenience.<br><br>Regards,<br>Bill

I have just posted a couple of new links on this
page. These are some of the best AEA articles that I
have seen to date, clear and concise. Please check
them out at your convenience.<br><br>Regards,<br>Bill

Over the past week, I have done A LOT of
searching the internet for references to AEA, using every
search engine and using every search word I could think
of. I found a several old message boards where people
were discussing AEA. Some of these conversations had
email addresses of the author. I have taken the liberty
of inviting some of these people whose lives were
impacted by AEA and who might be helped here to join this
forum. <br><br>If you have received an invitation to
this yahoo club and wondered how your address was
found, that is likely the case. I have not made note of
your email addresses anywhere and will not contact you
again unless you have joined this yahoo
club.<br><br>Regards,<br>Bill (DaltsDad)

Hi everyone, Just wanted to let you know that I
am going in for some minor surgery tomorrow and will
probably not be posting or checking this boards messages
for a few days. I have sent out announcements about
this site to a number of AEA victim families that I
know of. Please feel free to "invite" anyone that
might be helped by this message board. I expect that we
will see more actvity on this board over the next
weeks and months. Once we have a few more people join,
I will begin setting up a chat schedule when we can
all meet. In the meantime, please feel free to
initiate a chat with anyone you see here on
line.<br>Regards,<br>Bill

Hi everyone, Just wanted to let you know that I
am going in for some minor surgery tomorrow and will
probably not be posting or checking this boards messages
for a few days. I have sent out announcements about
this site to a number of AEA victim families that I
know of. Please feel free to "invite" anyone that
might be helped by this message board. I expect that we
will see more actvity on this board over the next
weeks and months. Once we have a few more people join,
I will begin setting up a chat schedule when we can
all meet. In the meantime, please feel free to
initiate a chat with anyone you see here on
line.<br>Regards,<br>Bill

Hi everyone, Just wanted to let you know that I
am going in for some minor surgery tomorrow and will
probably not be posting or checking this boards messages
for a few days. I have sent out announcements about
this site to a number of AEA victim families that I
know of. Please feel free to "invite" anyone that
might be helped by this message board. I expect that we
will see more actvity on this board over the next
weeks and months. Once we have a few more people join,
I will begin setting up a chat schedule when we can
all meet. In the meantime, please feel free to
initiate a chat with anyone you see here on
line.<br>Regards,<br>Bill

JUST CHECKING TO SEE IF THERE ARE ANY MESSAGES
FOR ME OR BONIE. WE WOULD BE PARTICULLARILY PLEASED
TO ANSWER ANY RESPONSES THAAT MAY COME IN. AS YOU
KNOW, OUR YOUNGEST WON MONTY DIED ON SEPT. 22, 1992
WHILE PRACTISING AEA, CHANGING OUR LIVES FOREVER. I AM
THANKFULL FOR TCF, AS SELF HELP SUPPORT GROUP FOR THE
PARENTS AND SIBLINGS OF ANY CHILD WHO HAS DIED, AND NOW
FOR THE FORTHOUGHT THAT BILL HAS HAD IN FORMING THIS
CLUB FOR THE PARENTS OF AEA VICTIMS. I HOPE TO BE ABLE
TO HELP OTHER AFFLICTED BY AEA ALSO AND WILL REPLY
TO ANY MESSAGES SENT MY WAY. ALSO I AM CHECKING WITH
SOME COUPLES WHO MAY WANT TO JOIN. PLEASE FEEL FREE TO
CONTACT ME OR BONNIE AND WE WILL REPLAY ASAP.
THANX.......CAMERON.

Cam & Bonnie, <br>Thank you for joining. If you
know of any other families impacted by AEA, please let
them know about this place. Also, please feel free to
let me know of any AEA links that may
help.<br>Wishing you God's peace.<br>Bill

MY NAME IS CAMERON, AND MY WIFE'S NAME IS BONNIE,
WE LOST OUR SON TO AEA SEPTEMBER 22, 1992. WE WOULD
BE INTERESTED IN MEETING OTHER FAMILIES OF AEA
DEATHS. WE ARE ALSO CHAPTER LEADERS OF THE WINNIPEG
CHAPTER OF COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS.

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