sorry about that sign in name. didnt realize my IM name was still on. yes i'm
lazy ahahahaha

Hi Christy,
How are you your family? My son Matt doesnt bring it up either. he wont talk
about Steve or what happened. if i bring up a fun memory he'll go along for a
very short time then change the subject. Jenny doesnt remember him, and she's
blocked out the day we found him. (thank god, she's so lucky!) Michelle still
wont talk about it. but she loves sharing steve stories.
I'm amazed how things change as we've all grown further away from this. and how
other things are stuck in time. in a lot of ways I'll always be stuck in
8-23-02.

love,
Carol


--- In autoeroticasphyxiationsupport@yahoogroups.com, christy86m@... wrote:
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> hi - i am so sorry to hear about your brother. i lost my brother jon on
> 5/11/09 and he also was not found for a little while (5/15/01 but it was in
> savannah, georgia in the heat of May).
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> anyway, my sister tells people it was an accident and moves on. my dad
> doesn't bring him up. my other brother doesn't either. my mom says it was an
> accident and cries. i tell people it was AeA - he accidentally hung himself.
> i cross my fingers they ask questions. i want people to know about AeA. my
> brother died very happy. i am devastated that he is gone and miss him every
> day of my life - but i do not get mad at the manner in which he died (i am
> now 40. he was 36 when he died and i was 32).
>
> best wishes to you and yours.
>
> christy
> jon's sister
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> In a message dated 9/28/2009 6:28:15 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,
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> Hi, I just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss. I, too, lost my
> brother (Jan. 09). He would have been 47 this month. I appreciate your post. I
> have typically told people that he took his own life. However, I also see
> how it may be easier to say that he had an accident in his home. I am still
> trying to find the words. Thanks again for your post.
>
> --- In _autoeroticasphyxiatautoeroticaautoeroticasaut_
> (mailto:autoeroticasphyxiationsupport@yahoogroups.com) , "mhiddenk"
<mhiddenk@...> wrote:
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> > Hi. I'm not sure how to do this. On April 1st (!) a police officer came
> to the door saying my brother had passed away, and that I should call the
> coroner's office in the county where he died. His body was found Mar 31, but
> he had died at least 2-3 weeks earlier. The scene was so gruesome, one of
> the investigating officers threw up. Even after "crime scene cleaners" had
> completely emptied and disinfected the place, it still smelled horrible.
> The death certificate reads "auto erotic asphyxiation - hanged self from
> doorway with chains." Lovely. He was 60 years old. My psychiatrist said to
> focus on the grief as grief, not on the circumstances; it was an accident; it
> could have been an auto accident. My therapist, very cautiously, because she
> did not at all want to make light of the situation, pointed out that this
> activity is engaged in to heighten sexual pleasure, so my brother might
> have been quite happy shortly before dying - I hadn't thought of it that way
> at all, and it seems to help (I'd been thinking, oh, poor soul, why did he
> think he deserved such punishment?) Hi. I'm not sure how to do&M patients,
> and says it is not at all unusual for family members and even close friends
> not to know of this behavior, which might be pushed to greater extremes
> with the passage of time. Though the death certificate, with its horribly
> blunt details, is a matter of public record, I am not yet prepared to tell
most
> people, even relatives except for my remaining brother, what actually
> happened. I am saying that my brother suffered a bad accident at home. If
> people press, I add that his body wasn't discovered for several weeks and was
in
> terrible condition. If they press further, I just say it's too difficult
> for me to talk about. By then I'm usually in tears, anyway. Thank you for
> being here.
> >
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