Im so glad you found this group, its so hard for family members to admit what
they have died of when aea is involved, its been 15 years since i lost my dad to
aea and its still known as he had an accident, very few people know how he
actually died.
It is extremly tough to let the anger go, i still battle with it on a daily
basis of why did he do such a stupid thing, the only thing that helps me through
it is knowing that dad didnt go into it thinking he wouldnt make it out alive,
and i beleive thats the same as everyone else, even bernie.
Its so hard looking at our kids and deciding as to wheather to tell them how
there uncle/grandfather ect died to give them a warning about it or keep it
quiet and knowing that there is a risk they might try the choking game oneday. i
guess we just have to take it in our stride and decide what is best for them in
the long run, you know your son best and will be able to decide if to tell him
or not when the time comes.
Were all here to support you and help in anyways we can
So sorry for your loss
Suzanne
(Garys Daughter)




--- In autoeroticasphyxiationsupport@yahoogroups.com, "drightley"
<scarlett921@...> wrote:
>
> Someone found this group for me. My brother Bernie,42, passed away from what
I think was AA on 9/26/08. At least, that was the day he was found. No one has
said what the real cause of death was, but I've figured it out. It wasn't hard.
>
> My mother still won't say it and just tells anyone that asks that he had an
accident. But everything points to AA. I only recently found out that he had
cord around his neck and his hands tied behind his back. That didn't make any
sense to me, but a friend has been doing a lot of research for me.
>
> The worst part is not being able to talk about it, even with my own family,
and my anger. I'm trying to let the anger go, but it's tough.
>
> MAny of you have mentioned that your lost loved ones are still close. I've
felt that with Bernie, too. I know he's tried to contact me in dreams, but I
get too upset and pull away. My mom also feels him close, which I'm glad for.
>
> I just don't know how to get through this. To those of you who have lost a
child to this, I can't imagine your pain. My son is 11 and with what I'm
learning about the choking game, I'm scared to death. He doesn't know how his
uncle died.
>
> Anyway, I hope to learn more through this group. I'm so sorry for our sad
connection.
>
> Deb
> Bernie's sis
>