hi deb,

my name is christy and i lost my brother jon when he was 36 on 5.11.01.

no one in my family talks about the aea either - but especially my mom.

one of the hardest parts for me has always been not being able to talk
about it. this website has been a huge blessing.

i am so sorry for your loss!!

christy
jon's sister


In a message dated 4/9/2009 8:26:59 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,
scarlett921@... writes:





Someone found this group for me. My brother Bernie,42, passed away from
what I think was AA on 9/26/08. At least, that was the day he was found. No
one has said what the real cause of death was, but I've figured it out. It
wasn't hard.

My mother still won't say it and just tells anyone that asks that he had
an accident. But everything points to AA. I only recently found out that he
had cord around his neck and his hands tied behind his back. That didn't
make any sense to me, but a friend has been doing a lot of research for me.

The worst part is not being able to talk about it, even with my own
family, and my anger. I'm trying to let the anger go, but it's tough.

MAny of you have mentioned that your lost loved ones are still close. I've
felt that with Bernie, too. I know he's tried to contact me in dreams, but
I get too upset and pull away. My mom also feels him close, which I'm glad
for.

I just don't know how to get through this. To those of you who have lost a
child to this, I can't imagine your pain. My son is 11 and with what I'm
learning about the choking game, I'm scared to death. He doesn't know how
his uncle died.

Anyway, I hope to learn more through this group. I'm so sorry for our sad
connection.

Deb
Bernie's sis





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