hi wendy,

i am so sorry to hear of your loss.

i lost my brother jon (age 36) to aea on 5.11.01.

i am stunned to hear your brother in law died from aea too. how tragic.

please know i am thinking of you. i am so sorry.

christy
jon's sister





-- On Thu, 12/25/08, wclark1956 <wclark1956@...> wrote:

rom: wclark1956 <wclark1956@...>
ubject: [Autoerotic Asphyxiation Support] I lost my husband to AeA
o: autoeroticasphyxiationsupport@yahoogroups.com
ate: Thursday, December 25, 2008, 9:06 PM



y name is Wendy and my husband, Dan, died of AeA on September 25,
008. He was 54 and we had been married 29 years. We have two
aughters and three grandchildren, and we miss him so very much. This
as a very difficult Christmas without him here with us.
I fell in love with Dan when I was 14, and we had been together for
8 years. We are best friends, lovers, soulmates, and eternally
onded. I was just professing this to one of the students who works
or me, before I left work to come home and find him hanging dead in
ur basement. I have been extremely challenged to keep my belief that
e are connected beyond this life in this world, as I haven't sensed
is presence much yet. It may be that I am sooooo distraught that I
an't be open to him, but I am fighting the consumption of my heart
y my loss of the one person who made me feel that it would somehow
e ok. It is so not ok, and I am trying to just let it be what it is,
ha
tever that is…
Dan was a very smart, outgoing, active man who enjoyed life, until
ust a few years ago. He had gone back to school to get a teaching
egree, and was partially finished with his special ed certification.
ut he couldn't get a job and was unable to pay off his student
oans. Along this time, his mother was deteriorating from CHF, and
he died three years ago. He had been active in her care, and after
he passed, his father's health began to decline also. So Dan had
pent the last several years providing attention and care to his
arents and also daycare for our two grandsons. In fact, the day he
ied was one of the first days he hadn't had outside interaction with
omeone in a very long time. Dan was very depressed at the state of
is life. He had been a very active, vibrant, deeply spiritual
ndividual and he didn't feel that he was blessed any longer. My
usband just wanted to use the gifts that he had been given, and he
elt that his opportunity had passed.
Many of you here discuss about how you know that your loved one
idn't know what was really capable of happening, and that they
ouldn't have done this if they had known. Bless you for your peace…
y husband's brother died of AeA on August 14, 1988. So this has been
he second time our family has been victimized by AeA. My husband did
now what could happen, and he chose to do it anyway. Now, that is
ur hell…. But we love him no matter what. For
giveness is my only
ption, because if I don't I will not heal. And I can't live like
his forever.









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