Pam-
I think you are very bitter about what has happened to your husband. I would
never in a million years say that he died with his hand around his cock.
Patrick did something that many people do not agree with or understand for that
matter and I do not down him or anyone who practices AeA. It is a
tragedy...nothing more. I have never been mad or angry with him. Do I want
answers? Yes. Will I get them? No. So I have to move forward in my life. For
both Ian and I. It is not fair for Ian to not have a man in his life. Patrick
would be pissed at me if I did not move forward. And I would not be in a
relationship now if I thought I was not ready. And to say that I need to
dedicate all my time to Ian...well, I do. He is my life. And no man that comes
into my life will change that or direct my attention from him in any way. I
believe my bond with Ian is much stronger because of the fact that Patrick is
gone. He is a spitting image of him. And I will cherish that in him forever. My
new boyfriend knows that my love for Patrick will never change and even he has
not said anything derogatory about Patrick as you have about your husband.

We are all in this for the same reason. How we react to the tragedy is what
makes us all different. I pray for you in that you can find it in yourself to
forgive your husband and not speak negatively about how he died. If he had his
choice, I imagine that he would be here today. I know Parick would be!

Pam Dring <dringpam@...> wrote:


First: You are not ready for a relationship.
Second: If this guy is really OK with all the photos in the house...there is
something wrong with him.
I'm 56, my husband took his life in February with his hand around his cock: and
just like everyone else on this site I have a sorry story.
Please, do not get into a relationship right now. you have a son who needs all
your attention!

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