Brandy,
Pam left our group yesterday. I agree with everything you said.
I also believe love is understanding. if you are lucky to find love,
they will certainly understand you leaving photos out. after all,
for those of you who lost husbands, they were a part of your life.
you cant erase that. and if there were children in the marriage
thats even more important to leave photos out.

I didnt lose my husband but my son 5 years ago, I have photos of him
all over the house. it makes family uncomfortable, which gives me
some sort of sick joy. they choose to ignore the fact that he even
existed, so I make it so they cant ignore that he was here, he is
still my son. I miss every part of him every day. they just have to
accept that. I cant just erase him that easily.

I have always been very open about how Steve died. if people want to
pass judgement, thats their problem not mine. I'm not ashamed of
him. I dont define him by his death. its very hard to be open and
honest with people when you know they have such bitter feelings such
as Pams. its sad that people are THAT angry. I doubt very much our
loved ones thought "oh wow, this ought to mess up my families heads
for the rest of their lives when they find me" nope, they were all
UNintentional, accidental and so innocent yet preventable.

take care,
Carol


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autoeroticasphyxiationsupport@yahoogroups.com, "stormwarning22"
<tuff_n_sweet@...> wrote:
>
> Pam
>
> First: Your vulgar and emotionless display has sickened me,
although
> this woman was asking our opinion I feel that you went above and
> beyond the call of duty. I find it unfortunate that you have been
> unable to forgive your husband for the way that he died. Are you
> ashamed of him? Or are you ashamed of yourself?
>
> Second: Who are you to pass judgement on anyone, I hope you wake
up
> everyday and look in the mirror and see the peson you have become,
> cold and heartless.
>
> and lastly third: Many of us have had a hard time moving on, it by
> far does not mean that we no longer love our ones who have passed
> its that we have grown and realized that life is what we make out
of
> it and will die alone if we sit there and wallow about the
hardships
> we were dealt.
>
> My husband died of extreme AEA He was found bound at the neck by
> bungee cords, a rope tied around his penis, as well as a vacumm on
> his penis.. in the middle of our livingroom floor and after 2
days.
> Please dont think that you are the only one that has ever hurt
from
> this Pam as so many people have.. not many people know about it
due
> to the ignorance of others... of strangers,,, thats why this group
> is here so we arent alone. Maybe you should blog on here more
often
> and get your anger out... if you dont accept this you will
> eventually die as a lonely bitter old woman who is too quick to
pass
> judgement on others.
>
> As for the woman who is wondering IS IT OK...
>
> Yes, for me it was okay, it took awhile to accept everything that
> happened and move on.. I wasnt looking to move on, I had 2 small
> children I needed to focus on.. why should I worry about anything
> other than them....then I realised, my happiness and how I feel
> about myself is what they are dependant on. I couldnt dwell on the
> past anymore. When I met Jeff I told him everything, Shawns
pictures
> are still around my house and in the face of my children, Shawn
made
> me who I am today... who Jeff loves.. strong and CAPABLE if I
would
> have let AEA break me... where would I be... move on its okay.. no
> one is asking you to forget
>
> Brandy
>
> --- In autoeroticasphyxiationsupport@yahoogroups.com, "Pam Dring"
> <dringpam@> wrote:
> >
> >
> >
> > First: You are not ready for a relationship.
> > Second: If this guy is really OK with all the photos in the
> house...there is something wrong with him.
> > I'm 56, my husband took his life in February with his hand
around
> his cock: and just like everyone else on this site I have a sorry
> story.
> > Please, do not get into a relationship right now. you have a son
> who needs all your attention!
> >
> >
> > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
> >
>