I would think he would understand. Patrick was a huge part of your
life, he always will be. especially since you have a child together.
I would leave everything the way it is, and you cant take them down
for Ians sake.
sounds like you found a great guy, who will not ask you to take them
down. but I would still ask him if he's ok with it. I love what
Melinda's therapist said. That is AWESOME!

and for the last poster Pam? you dont know this woman, so how can
you say she isnt ready? everyone is different, no one can say for
sure when is the right time to date again. and I take great offense
with the term "he took his life with his hand around his c***" NONE
Of our loved ones took thier lives! these were all accidental
deaths. they didnt want to die. there is a HUGE difference between
suicide and accidental death. and please lets not make it some
vulgar act. they were masturbating, not a damn thing wrong with
that. we dont need to make it a filthy act. people with your
attitude are why this has been kept in the dark for so long and it
makes me want to puke.

Carol

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autoeroticasphyxiationsupport@yahoogroups.com, "stewartandmorgan"
<stewartandmorgan@...> wrote:
>
> I lost Patrick to AeA a little over a year ago. He and I now have
a 5
> month old son who is the best thing that ever happened to me. I
miss
> Patrick so much! And it took me almost a year to decide to get
back out
> there and try dating again. I met a guy who loves both Ian
(Patrick and
> my son) and I. He is very understanding of the whole situation.
Which I
> never thought in a million years that I would find.
> I still have reservations as to how to let go. I know I do not
have to,
> but I have pictures of Patrick all over my apartment. I CAN NOT
take
> them down. My new boyfriend has not said anything in reference to
them,
> but I in some way feel bad about having them up. Everything in me
tells
> me to leave them there. But for his sake, I feel like I am not
doing my
> new boyfriend justice by leaving them up. Do I take them down?
Leave
> them? If I am to take them down, how am I not to feel like I am
doing
> an injustice to Patricks memory? I will always have a picture of
him up
> for Ian to see, but I have several. I don't know what to do.
>