I'm going to tell you a story my therapist told me. She had been married for
years to a wonderful man, the love of her life and suddenly he died. She kept a
picture of him up in the living room. then she met a new man and soon they were
in love, they married and he moved into her house. She felt she should remove
the picture. But when she went to take it down the new man told her to leave
it. When she asked why he said he may want to ask his advice some times.
What you need to tell your new man is that Patrick will always be a part of
you and Ian's past but he need not be jealous because he is your future.
I hope that makes sense and I truly hope you have happiness with this new man.
wishing you peace
MeLinda

stewartandmorgan <stewartandmorgan@...> wrote:
I lost Patrick to AeA a little over a year ago. He and I now have a 5
month old son who is the best thing that ever happened to me. I miss
Patrick so much! And it took me almost a year to decide to get back out
there and try dating again. I met a guy who loves both Ian (Patrick and
my son) and I. He is very understanding of the whole situation. Which I
never thought in a million years that I would find.
I still have reservations as to how to let go. I know I do not have to,
but I have pictures of Patrick all over my apartment. I CAN NOT take
them down. My new boyfriend has not said anything in reference to them,
but I in some way feel bad about having them up. Everything in me tells
me to leave them there. But for his sake, I feel like I am not doing my
new boyfriend justice by leaving them up. Do I take them down? Leave
them? If I am to take them down, how am I not to feel like I am doing
an injustice to Patricks memory? I will always have a picture of him up
for Ian to see, but I have several. I don't know what to do.





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