Hello everyone..I love what you are saying Neil...It is ones own self that has
to stay sober and if your waiting for others to call..well it could be a long
time..Like Neil said..YOU need to do the work, and one thing is to realize, is
that you cannot drink..at all..period! If I had to rely on other to say
sober..well I wouldn't be sober at all. Meetings are for support, guidance and
direction. Yes some people are in their own little worlds..Maybe because their
having a hard time like you...And you saying that you can teach someone to stay
sober..well why not teach your self...The only person who should and probably
would call you is your sponcer..You have to use the numbers to call when you get
the desire to drink..Like at nights after work which seems like your trigger
time..Go to a meeting after work instead of picking up that beer... Anothere
thing is the Out-Patient rehab..GO FOR IT!..get the direction you need..get that
foundation under your belt and LISTEN to what others have to say...You can do
it..you and only you..I hope you keep coming back......Mike












--- In anewbeginning2@yahoogroups.com, "Bill" <bfort@...> wrote:
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> Neil,
>
> This all seems backwards. I don't know that it is standard practice to call
newcomers. Sometimes a list of phone numbers is given to a newcomer and they are
left to call if they want to. Your sobriety is your own responsibility. Nobody
can get sober for you. If you want it you have to do what it takes to stay
sober. Sitting around waiting for a phone call will just keep you drunk. Go to
meetings, get a sponsor, get telephone numbers of other members, read the big
book, share at meetings, get involved. These are all things that you have to do
to stay sober. If you want what we have you have to do what we do.--- In
anewbeginning2@yahoogroups.com, "Neil" <nbsleppy@> wrote:
> >
> > hey everyone, I was part of this group for a while, but have been just
lurking for a long time. I need help/suggestions. I got sober 14 Aug 2003,
stayed sober for 1 year 1 month and 19 days (not that I was counting or anything
LOL), then played that revolving door thin for a while and then got sober again
for 359 days (again not counting or anything LOL) all with AA, I got sober in
Germany (affliated w/military) and it was a good group, alot of people I really
miss and most I don't, my time in the rooms unfortunatly semed to me that no one
gave a shit about anyone but themselves, no one "ever" called me and wanted to
know how I was doing if I was not at a meeting, it is not a case of PMS (poor me
syndrom), fast forward, I moved back to the states in 2006, and found out where
all the meetings where in my little city, I got involved right away, and bam,
same shit different group, no one called me, it seemed like no one cared, they
were all in their own little world, I have been searching for so long, I am so
tired of searching, I know all of the stuff on HOW to stay sober, hell I could
teach someone how to stay sober, i just can't figure it out anymore, I am only a
6-8 pack a night drinker, I don't think about it during the day until almost
quitting time, and then that is all I think about, so there goes all of my
morning prayers, and off to drinking I go. Please help! just can't figure out
what to do, I was thinking about maybe out-patient rehab, can't afford to stay
out of work for in patient rehab, not to mention my work would let me go if I
did go in-patient. Thanks for letting mr babble, thanks for being here
> >
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