Hello Jiane,
Welcome. I too strugle with the "giving to all", I took a class once
that was titled, "Why doesn't everyone like me", at the end of it, we
had to answer all sorts of questions, I was classified (by my results)
a "caregiver", I said to the instructor, "tell me something I don't
already know (ha ha).
I am a "Mr. Mom" and have through my sobriety found that I am not here
on this rock to make everyone happy, not that I don't love all in my
family, I just can't make them happy or for that matter make them sad,
or as Redneck said "ruin their life", they do that all on their own,
when I became sober I also had to learn to "Change my thoughts"
and "Control my emotions", once I mastered that, along with being
sober, life is great, sure I have my day's but for the most part life
is good.
Neil