We just had the 1 year anniversary of when Logan passed and his
birthday in December. We lit a candle and blew it out together and
just spent the day together. You will know what is the right thing
for your family for it, don't let anyone tell you how you should
handle it.

As for the new baby, it's a new child, it's not a replacement - just
treat it as such and you should be fine.


--- In anencephaly@yahoogroups.com, "melony" <melmelx21@...> wrote:
>
> I still don't know quite what to say, so let me start by saying
> Hello to everyone. It is approaching the one year anniversary that
> we sent our son Joshua home to God to be perfect and whole. I am
now
> 25 weeks pregnant with a "healthy" little boy. People around me
> think for some reason one child should replace another. This
> pregnancy is different and many times reminded me of the pregnancy
> with Joshua. I had started therapy when I found myself hating
> pregnant women (before I became pregnant again) and when I was
> starring at infants heads...thinking why couldn't my son just have
> the same chance. We found out 2 days after our wedding that we were
> expecting a total surprise baby, and we were shocked. Wow I am
> shaking and have that tight throat feeling now..I guess a lot of
> pain is still here. I had my ultrasound on 1-13-06..Friday the
13th.
> I knew he was not very active, and was in a large amount of
> fluid..but I had pics of my baby and was on cloud 9...My daughter
> was 10, this baby was one I was so excited for. Now that I survived
> his due date 7-30-06 and to honor him had a baby foot print with
> wings and a halo tattooed on my shoulder blade with 1-20-06 under
> it. I am scared of this upcoming time, the date of the ultrasound,
> the date the Dr called us in to sit us down, the three days and
> nights I stayed up searching for any Dr any where that could "fix"
> my son and finding only Dr's interested in his organs, and the date
> we "ended" the pregnancy...I was 12w6d...1 day away from begining
my
> second trimester and ending the morning sickness. I was never told
I
> could of induced early and held his tiny body, when I saw the pics
> on the group I felt robbed of what my heart wanted to do, and what
> was "best for me". I cried so hard in the O.R. the Dr and 2 nurses
> cried and they had a hard time knocking me out. I have ultrasound
> photos and a pathology report discussing the "products of
> conception" and now I can't seem to get close to this baby boy, and
> I was wondering any suggestions on the approaching anniversary and
> any suggestions on how to be close to our son Ethan, due in April.
> Sorry for how long
> Mel
>