Hello Nancy,
I had 2 normal pregnacies before my daughter amelia then after her i
am currently pregnant with a healthly little girl. (i think it is a
girl) i dont know if she is all the way healthy but i do know she
does not have the anencephaly baby, as long as she has her head and
brain i dont care what is wrong with her.
My daughter amelia i found out at 13 weeks that she was this way. i
had said i did not want abort her so i waited till i was 18 weeks
and my doctor induced my labor and i had her vaginaly. it was a very
hard period. I went in the 17th of jan and had my first supostory
(dont know how to spell that) at 830 am. than another and i still
wasnt in labor by 12 i was having a sharp pain that felt like i
needed to pass gas and then i it went away and my water broke. up
until then i was thinking about stopping it and going home and wait
and see if she aborted herself, i was told most women have a late
term miscarriage then there are the few (and i feel so bad for them)
that go full term and there child live for a few days or hours.
which i dont know what i would do again if it happened i knew that i
could not stand to see my child die in front of my eyes that was
hard thinking about it, let alone all theses brave women that do
make it ful term. they had a much greater gift than i did. there
children lived for whatever amount if time.... my daughter decided
at 100 in the morning she was ready to come out. and at 2:02 AM she
was born, she was not alive i think that when my water broke she
passed away then, that was at the time the most hardest thing i had
to do was hold my daughter whom fit in the palm of my hand. she wasa
2.2 oz and 7 1/2 inches long. her skin was see though almost looked
like an alien. I know that is kinda mean but thats the best way i
can discribe the way she looked. she had all 10 toes and fingers,
not web she was all developed. for months after i had fanthom kicks
and thought i felt her move... even though she was not there
anymore. she died jan17th 2005, and was born on 18th jan 2005, 4
months later my 9 month old healthy child died a horrible horrible
death. do not want to go in to details. but what i tried to avoid
doing i ended up doing i buried my children. this is not how life is
suppose to be. your not suppose to bury your kids, they bury you.
anyways. i have a wonderful 3 year old son cute as can be and im
having a litle girl in feb... i also have found out i have cervical
cancer. this will be my last child also. so i hope that whatever you
make in your decision you do whats best for you and your heart and
piece of mind. some women choice to abort, some do as i have done
and some the brave ones i think go all the way and get a special
time with their angel. im sometimes regret that i ever seen my
daughter breathe or move but in my heart of hearts i thought she
would suffer more if i contuined. I wish you all the best and send
out my love, this is such a hard and painful time for you and your
family. good luck and god bless...

heather murphy
mommy to amelia 1-18-05/1-27-05 caden 7-12-04/04-29-05



--- In anencephaly@yahoogroups.com, "Nancy" <nluncsford@...> wrote:
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>
> Hello all~
>
> I am new to your site as I just found out that my unborn so has
> anencephaly. I am unsure how we are going to handle this. This
is my
> third pregancy and my fourth child. All the other three were born
> normal. Has anyone decided to terminate early and if so what
method did
> you choose and how did it affect your emotional self and your
family? I
> am concerned for me and my son. He was verry excited and wanted a
> brother. He already has two sisters.
>
> Did anyone deliver a normal baby after the baby that had
anencephaly?
>
> Would love to hear from you~!
>
> Thanks~
>
> Nancy
>