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Hi Ashley,
I'm not a teen, but I know what it's like to lose your first child. I totally understand when other people say, you're still young, you'll have others, I hear that from people also. They don't seem to understand that losing your child is hard, and you grieve that child for as long as you need to. Even though they weren't able to be here physically, they are always going to be in our hearts and they will NEVER be forgotten, no matter what other people say or do.
My name is Marisol, I'm 25, and I lost my first child to anencephaly. I wasn't given many of the facts, pretty much just that I had to terminate. The Doctor said the baby was going to be born dead or die a few minutes later, and since it was my first child, the best thing to do was terminate. He gave me until the following afternoon to make my decision, I thought at the time that was the best thing to do. I guess I also didn't think that this child would have such an impact on me. The next few days I spent crying and isolated. I wanted to be alone, I didn't care about anything or anyone else, it was all me and my Martin.
Did your babies all have anencephaly? I know you're young, but age doesn't matter, you're still a mother!!! I hope that we're able to offer you the support that you need. Take care, you are in my prayers. Marisol
roysbabygirl8705 <roysbabygirl8705@...> wrote:
roysbabygirl8705 <roysbabygirl8705@...> wrote:
Hi,
I just recently had a son his name was Nicholas. I had him December
12th 2004, I was 16 1/2 weeks. This is the second time I've lost a
child, my first I was having twins and I lost them in a miscarriage,
I was only 2 months when I lost them so I don't know if the were
boys, girls and boy and girl, but I wish i could have so i could of
named them. I don't have any children, and I'm 17. The hardest thing
for me is people saying your young you'll have other children, like
you'll replace them, and I can't their my babies. I also had a
funeral for him the 16th, I go see him all the time, and just cry.
most people think when I say my age that I;m just some slut
teenagers who didn;t care, and that hurts, I've been with the same
guy through all of this, hes my only boyfriend, for 1st kiss hes my
first and only everything, but I don't think I need to explain that
to people I don't know. If there is any one out there who knows what
I;m going through, email me.
Love Always,
Ashley
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