Hello...I am sorry to hear about your little one...

I too had to decide between carrying my baby to term or terminating the pregnancy.  I have been afraid to tell this board that, because I think they all choose to carry.  We did not. 

 

At the time (1986), we had a 5yo daughter and a 3yo son who were very excited about the new baby.  We found out at 26 weeks.   I was showing, and we had all felt her moving around.  My husband and I decided that our older children were too young to go through the rest of the pregnancy not understanding why their little sister would never come home.  Instead, we told them that she was very sick and was going to be with Jesus. 

 

During the week it took to make my decision, I scoured the library for any information I could get on this defect. Any hope at all.  I even offered to carry her to term if they would let me donate her organs, but at that time they did not accept organs from anencephalic infants, because they didn't know if it was contagious??   My doctor finally gave me his pass to the hospital library where I got "real" information.  None of it good.

 

Also, at that time, there was a little girl with anencephaly who was 6yo.  She had no brain function at all...she was basically in a non-responsive coma.  After she was born, the parents wanted to let her go, but the state took custody of her.  They had spent over 6 years fighting to let thier little one go home.  It ruined thier financial state after their insurance ran out, and finally thier marriage fell apart.  This was all in the news during that week.  After my research, and that story, we made our decision and never looked back.  My husband missed the birth when he left to get lunch, but my mother was there.  I held my tiny little Angellynne for about 7 hours, wrapped in a blanket.  She was so tiny with a band of white curls, and perfect in every way until you turned her over.  I would have given my own life to spare hers, but Jesus needed her more than I did.  I know I will see her again. 

 

I believe she is my youngest daughter's guardian angel.  My youngest was born almost exactly a year to the day after Angellynne.

 

If I can be of any help, please let me...I have been exactly where you are right now and can give you a different view of things, I think, than the rest of these lovely families in this group.

God Bless...You are in my prayers...

Lorie

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