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Hello Evonne,
My own children are grown now, The older two were 5 and 2 when their sister Angellynne was born. We told them that our baby was very sick and would never be coming home. Through the years, they are their new baby sister, who is now 17, would talk about her just like a sister they had never met. They never asked how she died. I have always been open and honest with my children in all life issues, so they feel very free to ask me questions. I truly feel that the hard questions will come when they have children of their own and they will certainly be old enough by then. So, I guess my advice is let them lead the way. Let them know they had a sister who was very sick and died. Answer any questions openly and honestly. If you lie to your children, they will lose their trust in you. I never told them their was a Santa Claus either. They got presents from him, and when they were old enough to ask why, I explained
that Santa Claus was a person who lived long ago and gave presents to children because he loved them. Through the years, they asked more questions and still believed until they started school. I don't make things up, but I only answer the exact question they are asking. In all aspects of life.
Sorry this is so long...yesterday was a long day and I guess I am still a bit giddy. I hope it helps anyway.
God Bless
Lorie
Tabitha Drown <tabitha_drown@...> wrote:
Tabitha Drown <tabitha_drown@...> wrote:
I think four is a little young to tell her. I would wait until she could fully grasp the idea of anencephaly. because kids when they are young will continue to ask until they fully understand and at young ages it's hard to tell them without showing pictures...that's a bit too graphic. just make sure she knows about her younger siblings and don't let her forget. Kids develop at different ages. when you think your daughter could mentally grasp the concept then you should explain it so you do not stress her out by trying to explain it so she understands too early in her life.Tabitha
evonneT2003@... wrote:hiyai have a daughter Abigayle who is 4 and a son Jack who is 7 months, my angel baby, Holly was born in May 2002 so would be 2 1/2 now.i have often wondered when to tell my eldest and how to go about doing so, she has visited Hollys grave on many a time with us but has never asked questions, she loves to do the flowers.When do you think i should tell her and how do i go about doing it?thanxevonnexxx
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