Suzanne -

Thank you for reaching out to us. I'm glad you're feeling better and
that you managed to get your mom's affairs straightened out. What a
wonderful note to receive from your daughter! She sounds like a great
person - you can't have done EVERYTHING wrong when you were raising her!

I'm glad you didn't have a mental or nervous breakdown after all.
Sometimes things seem to overwhelm us and we're not sure what's going on
in our minds. But it sounds like you've made some good decisions
regarding your mom and sister. I imagine it's hard on your mom to have
to leave her apartment, but you're right; she isn't safe there. Did you
get a permanent restraining order or just a temporary one?

I hope you, your mom, and your daughter don't have trouble from your
sister in the future. You're one strong lady, though, and can no doubt
handle whatever she throws at you!

Blessings,

Terry S
--
"Men kick friendship around like a football, but it doesn't seem to
crack. Women treat it like glass and it goes to pieces." - Ann Morrow
Lindbergh, 1906 - 2001




Suzanne wrote:
> hi,I hadn't been strong enoough to comunicate with the list since I joined
but,am ready to share now as I need to.When I joined the list I was on the verge
of a nervous breakdown which now they call post partum depression and I was also
dellusional and also marijuana abuse.I also was having anxiety attacks and was
hospitalized for a week in a mental ward.The reason this happened was,I since
last October was being abused by my sister.My mother is 86 years old and had a
stroke 2 years ago and the doctor told my mother she could not live alone so my
mother begged my sister to quit her job to stay with her so she wouldn't have to
go in a nursing home.My mother gave her full access to her checking and savings
and my sister went through virtually all her life savings and stopped paying her
life insurance policy and ran credit cards up.She went through approximately
70.000 and let my mother with under 10.000 dollars.I live in louisiana and my
mother and sister live in New york..I
also have my youngest daughter who also lives in New york.My daughter called me
back in October and told me whst was going on.I immediately contacted the police
where they live and adult protection took on the case.The problem was that my
mother was and still is considered to be of sound mind wouldn't tell adult
protection what my sister was doing to her because she wanted to stay in her
apartment that she had lived in for 35 years with her 2 cats.So for 6 months I
had to listen to the horror stories of what my sister was doing to her.I may I
flew to New york for 2 reasons,to say my goodbye to my mother before she died
and and also to try to help her help herself.Well the day before I was to come
back home walked into family court and gotr a restraining order and the next day
before my fflight home my mother,daughter and I went to my mothers bank and put
all the accounts back in her name.When I came back home I joined your list.I
knew something was wrong but,didn't know how
badly.I regressed back to that little child.I would sit at my pc and lost
interest in all the things I used to do.I had thoughs of noone loved me or heard
me and felt invisible.2 weeks ago it came to a head.I never had an anxiety
attack in my life and when I did I thought I was dying.I thought I swallowed my
tongue.I called paramedics and they took me to a hospital where the doctor in
the emergny room gave me some bogus medicine to relax my tongue and his
diagnosis is that I was choking.the next day I called the paramedics again
complaining of dizziness.They took my vitals and left my on my porch dizzy.I
couldn't catch my breath.The last time I called 911 again and they sent a police
officer out.He asked me why I couldn't drive myself to the hospital.I had never
had anxiety attacks before so I couldn't explain what was happening to me.When
the officer left I remember screeming on my front porch somebody help me! Well I
finally in an anxiety attack drove to a hospital and they
put me on the mental ward.I stayed for 1 week.the first day there I still
thought something was physically wrong with me.I called my daughter and told her
that she had to get me outta there after all I did for her.(guilt trip) The next
day I realized it was mental and when my daughter came to visit me I told her I
loved her and that I hurt her and I was sorry.You see,I was a lousy mother.I had
no parenting skills as my parents had none either.The following day when my
daughter came to visit me she gave me a card and I would like to share what my
daughter wrote on that card from her heart.
>
> Dear mom,
> No worry,let go of what happened in the past.You were the best mother
you knew how to be.It's not your fault at all you had no idea you were not being
a good mother.You stayed by my side through all the ups and downs so now today
we can climb up up up.I'm here for you just like you were here for me.Believe me
it's my pleasure.I love you not every day but,forever.You've traveled a long
hard road.Now you have a bright new beginning ahead of you and the sails are
up.Take me with you please.We all have needs physical and mental and I know
better than anyone else that none of your needs were ever met.You found a way to
survive through many wars and you will win this one.Even though you didn't
create the war,soldier is who you are with no training,no guns,no gear no
shelter.Wow! you managed to come this far without all of that!!!! I am impressed
and proud of you. My mom is a survivor
> Your loving
daughter,Rhonda.
>
> This letter from my daughter was the greatest gift I have ever recieved from
her...
> My mother is now safe in a nursing home.