This person states:

I knew a nice lady who never let on she was being beaten by her boyfriend, but it took him almost killing her before she left him. Did he really love her???? He could be very nice to her sometimes, but when he was bad to her he was very bad. He would promise her that he would never hit her again, and he would be good for awhile, but he would soon start beating her again. Each time he beat her he got more violent, but she liked him when he would bring home a present, and he would again promise not to hit her, and this went on for years.....always the samething. The times he was nice to her got shorter and shorter. The times he was abusiive got to be more often. Is that love? What would you advise her to do? Should she stay? Why? Should she go??? What would you tell her to do?

She decided he was good to her once in awhile, and besides she wasn`t sure if she could make it on her own or not, so she stayed. She got pregnant, and in her 7th or 8th month he hit her against the wall, and she lost the baby. She almost died to. She finally decided if he killed their unborn child, almost killed her, that the bad out weighed the good, and she finally left him. It wasn`t easy for her, but she went back to school and got her GED, and now she is in college. She wants to help other women who are in the same situation she was in. She loved herself enough to get out of a dangerous situation.
If you truly LOVE someone and they LOVE you, then NO ONE hurts NO ONE. You can`t have a loving relationship unless BOTH people LOVE EACH other. It isn`t a loving relationship, its a disfunctional relationship, if one or both are physically hurting the other
one.

I know another woman who said her husband loved her, and was so good to her sometimes, but the rest of the time he was hitting her all the time. He would throw her against the wall, beat her on the head, and hit her on her face. Every time afterward he would come home and give her a present and vow never to do it again....BECAUSE HE LOVED HER. Is that the way you would act, toward him, if you loved him???? Do you think he never hurt her again????? Wrong, one day he pushed her down the stairs, and she fell all the way to the bottom. When she finally woke up in the hospital the dr asked her what happened to her. She said her husband got mad at her and pushed her down the stairs. He asked her if she was going to leave him now, and she said no.....she loved him, and the Dr said, he almost killed you, do you call that love? About this time she started to wonder what had happened to her. She knew she fell down the stairs, but she wasn`t sure if she was ok or not, so she asked
the Dr what was wrong with her. He told her that she had two broken knees, her nose was broken, and some of her teeth broke off, she broke one arm, and her insides were a mess. It would be awhile before she could leave. He asked her where she was going after she got out of the hospital, and she said back to her husband, because she LOVED him. Is that what you would call LOVE??? The dr said to her, that the next time her husband LOVE her, that he would LOVE?????? her to DEATH.

I know this will be hard for everyone to read, but I don`t want to have to say again.....there is this woman I knew and have it be YOU I am talking about. don`t let him LOVE???? you to death. I know to many who did not leave, and they are in their grave now. Don`t be one of them.......THIS IS FOR EVERYONE WHO READS THIS MESSAGE....DON`T DIE FOR LOVE.

Love isn`t one sided. Love isn`t hitting, hurting, or rapeing someone. Love isn`t just once in awhile. Love isn`t being disrespectful to the other person. Love isn`t putting the other person down to make you feel good about yourself. I could list alot more, but I don`t want to take up to much of your time. JESS and everyone else ask yourself what am I getting out of this relationship I am in? I hope you will see that you can leave before its to late. You will find someone who will love you for being you, and not treat you bad. There are still a FEW nice guys left find one who is RIGHT for you.

One thing I forgot to include was that in the small city I lived in, had a night where they lined up all the shoes of all the people who had died from abuse.  When you see all the small shoes lined up in a row, its enough to make you sick.