Rena, I have been trying to e-mail to you, but your address is not
accepting messages. There is more to this story than meets the eye. I
have gone through so much. He o.d.'d in November, has been in out of
hosp. I think the problem is that he does not want to get better and I
just don't know what to do. Love, Mary Ann

RAVEN97363@... wrote:
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> First time on message board----MaryAnn sorry to hear about your husband. I
> wish I could come up with someting brillant for you to help your husband he
> is a very nice guy , I remember meeting him many years ago at an AIM picnic.
> You know him best so I guess you would know what could help him get out of
> this back sliding he is in right now.I am sure it is only temporary!!!!I know
> being an enabler is not the right way to go, but maybe in the begining he
> needs more help then you usually would want to give. I would do just the
> opposite of what you are doing right now. You know he is a really good guy,
> maybe he just needs lots of love for awhile,extra love.Then whan you see he
> is improving you can back off, but I dont think you have to become his
> enabler. My prayers are with you always , he must be very hard for you right
> now, because what effects your husband also affects you. And it sure puts
> alot of pressure on a person when money is short. Ralph is not doing good
> with his health problems. It is very hard for both of us, in fact we are
> going together on Sun. the 17th, to a seminar for familles with menbers who
> have chronic illness and pain. So some how you two have to work together in
> love , so you both can be happy. Lots of love and prayers. Love always Rena
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