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From: Christine R.

To: a-i-m@egroups.com

Sent: Thursday, July 13, 2000 11:45 PM

Subject: [a-i-m] Fwd: My dad's annoying girlfriend (very long, but please help)

I need some opinions here.  I feel like I am being a spoiled,
ungrateful brat.  But, I am just so angry.

Here's the backround story:  My dad (whom I have never lived with)
has been with his girlfriend Kathy on and off since I was six.  Kathy
and I have always butted heads.  She is very opinionated and
controlloing.  My dad always does what she wants.  She runs his
life.  She always seems to come first with him.

As a kid, my dad always bought me my cloths.  It was his job.  Every
spring and fall we would shop.  Well he almost always brought Kathy
along for the shopping trip.  Well everything I picked out to wear,
she hated.  Everything she picked out for me to wear, I hated.  We
always battled in the store.  Well guess whose choices were always
bought, HERS.  All through school I had to wear the ugly as cloths
she picked out.  They were never my style.  I was never allowed to
have the cloths I liked because Kathy thought they were ugly.  She
did this with everything, what we ate, and where we would go on
outings.  He always let her choose.  She was always right.  I was
always wrong.

Here's the new problem:  My baby shower is this Sunday. 
I invited Kathy.  Since I have been on my own we have gotten along
better.  I make my own choices now.  Well anyway, two months ago I
went to babies r us to make a registry.  I spent hours picking out my
nursery theme.  I have always dreamed of decorating my first nursery
for my first child.  Having all the choices be exclusively mine is
very important to me.  I did not even let Charles help and it is his
kid too.  I picked out a beautiful Winnie the Pooh theme, my favorite
cartoon.  I picked out a matching crib set, wall hanging, and lamp,
and mobile.  I love it.  It is definitly my style.  I feel so proud
of it.  It is affordable to.

Well my dad called me today.  He prewarned me about something he knew
might bug me.  He said Kathy and him went to babies r us last weekend
for my gift.  Well she spent 100 dollars on me.  It was very nice of
her.  She did not have to get me anything, I realize.  But, you know
what she did to me, AGAIN?  She decided my Winnie the Pooh stuff was
very ugly.  She hated it.  She picked out a crib set, lamp, wall
hanging, and mobile in the theme of her choice.  She redecorated my
nursey.  Since I have always hated her taste I doubt I will like it. 
I am very picky.  I told my dad I was going to take it all back and
get my stuff next week.  He said I better not.  He said her feelings
will be hurt when she comes over and sees that I did not keep her
stuff.  Who said she could come over anyway?  I do not want her
hanging around me just becasue I had a baby.  Where does she get off
knocking my taste and redoing everything?  What about my feelings and
wishes?  I come last again.

All I can hope is that someone still gets my choices for me so I can
take hers back because I got two.  Should I take hers back anyway and
get what I wanted?  Would that be terribly rotten of me?  What do you
all think.  This is my baby and my house.  I put alot into my
planning.  Even if I like her theme (which I doubt) I know I will
like mine better.  I looked at everything in the store.  Mine was the
nicest.  Why couldn't she just use the registry?  Why does she have
to be such a jerk?  And why does my dad let her do it.  UGH!!

I will act like I love the gift and say thank you at the shower.  I
am too nice a person to act otherwise.  But I think I will stop at
the store on the way home and do some exchanging.  Am I a bitch for
that?  Please help.
 
Thank you if you read all this.  I hope you understand.

Love  Christine  (Warren)


(P.S.  One more thing, if she tells anyone at the shower that she is
going to be a grandma, I will have a fit.  She has been saying that. 
She is not my mom.  She is barely my friend.  As far as I am
concerned Paige has four grandma's, Charles's mom, my mother in
heaven, and both my grandma's who have taken such good care of me my
whole life.  Kathy bugs me, can you tell?  She is very manic
depressive.  She is in and out of mental hospitals all the time.  She
even lost custody of her son becasue she is sick.  It is so sad.  I
do feel for her.  But I just hope she does not have one of her
episodes at my shower.  I don't want a scene.  I am too sick lately
to handle it.  I am too sick to even go but I have to.  I hope I am
not being rotten here but I wish she was not even coming.  She is
always touching me too.  She won't keep her hands off me.  I want to
smack her when she does that.  I hate being touched by anyone,
especially her.  I am much more irritable than usual lately too. 
Wish me luck.  I hope I don't find it necessary to be mean.)




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