If any of you want to get or give a copy of the book Finding Our Fire for Christmas  you may want to order this week for out of the US and next week for the US. Print on demand takes 5 extra days + shipping.  This is a wonderful gift for any men you admire or women who want to be more effective in dealing with men  and the key fund raiser for The Men's & Women's Inquiry - Helping with the cost of the two websites, etc. ( www.TheMensInquiry.com ) & (www.TheWomensInquiry.com ) . A big thank you to all those that already bought the book. Please email me directly your comments about the book for I am useing that to market it and understand more how it is effecting people. martin@...

You can find out about the book and order it from: www.FindingOurFire.com

To read about progress with The book and The Men's Inquiry go to:
http://toinquire.blogspot.com/

A little about the book (the text on the back cover) :

For Men: to enrich their lives
   For Women: to further understand men
        For Therapists and Counselors: to understand what male clients don't say

The frank and fascinating conversation about what it means to be a man serves as a mirror for both sexes to see family history in a new light or take a more enlightened look at a current relationship.  This book is a virtual tool kit for resolving issues from the past and installing insight for creating a compelling and passionate future.  Because without freedom from our past and clarity about our future, it is difficult to connect to the passion and fire of our life--and without that fire connection, a man either gives up his dreams or feels he has to dominate and control his environment.

"In Finding Our Fire, Martin Brossman gives from the very depth of his soul, from his fire. Turn the page and your fire will be sparked. Turn the next page and your heart will be opened. Turn the next page and you will find strength. Turn and turn, and you will be awakened to what is alive in you! For both men and women, Finding Our Fire will stimulate the best in you and open your world to a deeper connection with the energy needed to create a more harmonious future!"
-Carolyn R. Craft, Host "Waking Up with Carolyn Craft"

"A gift from a dedicated leader in personal growth, particularly the development of the healthy male ego, "Finding Our Fire" is a must read for psychotherapists, life coaches and anyone interested in the  wounding and healing of the male psyche."
-Barry K. Selman, LCSW

About the author (me):
Martin Brossman is a Success Coach, speaker and trainer known for his focused, rapid-results coaching method. He assists clients to "get clear, get in action and stay in action." Martin targets personal effectiveness, goal fulfillment, conflict skill development and integrated sales strategies for executive, small business and entrepreneurial clients. 

Thanks!
Martin Brossman
Martin@...
(919) 847-4757

Here are the questions for the meeting:

1)  Is there such thing as the fear of success?

2)  What does success mean to you?  To society?

3)  How do we get beyond this fear (if we have it) in our lives in
order to become the person we want to be?

Hello all,

Here is the question for this month:

What is personal power? What is its nature and constituents?
Adding a few prepositions gives some inroads to this daunting task.
Power over another, power from others, power from within, power from
above, power from access to resources/knowledge/influence, power
to…?

Any others?

A business consultant named Ischak Adizes came up with the
distinctions of Control, Power and Authority in a corporate setting.
They've been helpful to me as tools of analytical observation.

What is good/bad about personal power?

What are the social cues to hierarchy in your subculture(s)?

What does hierarchy have to do with power? and dare I say it -
submission and dominance?

What do you think/feel/do when you encounter some one with more
power than you? Less?

Kimberly and Buni,

thank you very much for your perspectives.  Both of your points are so
important and so valid.  And this seems to be one of those "meshed"
subjects, where one can start talking about one aspect, but there are
so many "strings" attached to it (male/female energies, manipulation,
beliefs in general, self esteem, etc.)

I have been finding entire "worlds" in quotes along the lines of
"Someone can only make you feel inferior/ hurt you if you let them",
because I noticed how much of what's been giving me "grief" in this
relationship has been my own reaction to what he's been saying rather
than what he actually said.  Fine line, as Kimberly pointed out -
definitely keeps things interesting though :) !

Happy weekend,

Maika

--- In Womens-Inquiry@yahoogroups.com, "maikahoffmann"
<maikahoffmann@...> wrote:
>
> Howdy Ladies,
>
> quick question from a 30-year old German chick living in San Diego,
> CA: Have any of you, especially you married ones, ever felt a "need"
> to submit to your man?
>
> I'm currently seeing a guy who's usually pretty level headed, but
> keeps insisting that we women had an ingrained "need" to submit.  What
> are your thoughts?
>
> Thanks a bunch and happy almost weekend,
>
> Maika
>

Howdy Ladies,

quick question from a 30-year old German chick living in San Diego,
CA: Have any of you, especially you married ones, ever felt a "need"
to submit to your man?

I'm currently seeing a guy who's usually pretty level headed, but
keeps insisting that we women had an ingrained "need" to submit. What
are your thoughts?

Thanks a bunch and happy almost weekend,

Maika

Howdy Ladies,

quick question from a 30-year old German chick living in San Diego,
CA: Have any of you, especially you married ones, ever felt a "need"
to submit to your man?

I'm currently seeing a guy who's usually pretty level headed, but
keeps insisting that we women had an ingrained "need" to submit.  What
are your thoughts?

Thanks a bunch and happy almost weekend,

Maika

I'm going to give that first question a shot.  As far as I can tell,
one day before my 30th b-day, being authentic simply means that you
live consciously enough be able to discern what really makes you you
versus what habits and quirks you picked up "along the way."

And in my experience, it's really easy to tell the difference:  If you
lose a habit, you THINK you can't live without it.  If you lose a part
of yourself, you KNOW you can't live without it.

Cheers,

Maika
"Live, Love, Laugh."

--- In Womens-Inquiry@yahoogroups.com, "emseabold" <emseabold@...> wrote:
>
> The topic:
>
> Being authentic, what does it really mean?
>
> Where it is winning and where it makes a difference?
>
> How does authentic speaking make a difference, in life,
> in conflict, in the world?
>

The topic:

Being authentic, what does it really mean?

Where it is winning and where it makes a difference?

How does authentic speaking make a difference, in life,
in conflict, in the world?

Update on The Women's Inquiry and related stuff

A new Yahoo group has been created for Single Mother's Raising Sons:

Single Moms Raising Sons http://groups.yahoo.com/group/momsraisingsons/  was created in response to all the Single Mother raising Son's that contacted our web site. I have lead the Men's Inquiry for over 10 years and have gained 100's of calls from Single Mother's looking for support. I see a need for this and created both the blog and this group to do this.
I do this out of my commitment to relationships and society, for when Son's don't get enough support they tend to act 'out' more, not only causing problems in their own lives but society. This is a complement to the blog on the same topic. http://mothersandsons.blogspot.com/

It's goal is providing support for single mothers raising sons and the to support women in writing a book on this topic. My vision is that I will support some (or several) women in writing a book about collecting the wisdom of mothers in addressing this issue.

I am looking for several co-moderators as well. Your help is appreciated!

Join us,
Martin Brossman - martin@...
Founder of The Men's & Women's Inquiry
www.themensinquiry.com 
www.thewomensinquiry.com 

I will be a regular on a Wonderful New  Radio Show for Women and want your help!

I would love your input on what you would like to see on the show and topics you would like me to address. If you have something to offer the show let me know too. They want ordinary people talking about real life issues. 
 
Welcome to The Nicki & Beth Morning Show Online!
We're the brand new radio show you've been hearing about.  Morning fun and info from a female perspective Monday through Friday on a great station near you.  If you can't find us nearby, listen to us on our flagship station, Surfside 1640, the Carolina's Super Station each weekday from 7am-10am.  surf there

About the show: http://www.morningchicks.com/

Listen each Tuesday as motivational speaker and male & female advocate Martin Brossman joins Nicki & Beth!

To hear the show select listen now and make sure you allow pop-ups, then pick the Internet speed and player that you use: http://www.surfside1640.com/

Be well,
Martin Brossman
The Men's & Women's Inquiry

Martin@...

Men's: www.themensinquiry.com

Women's: www.thewomensinquiry.com

The blogs:
The Men's Inquiry Blog: http://toinquire.blogspot.com/
The Women's Inquiry Blog: http://womensinquiry.blogspot.com/

Single Fathers Raising Kids

http://singlefathersraisingkids.blogspot.com/

Single Mothers (Single Parent) Raising Sons:

http://mothersandsons.blogspot.com/

Resources for teenage boys / young men:

http://fortheteenageboys.blogspot.com/

And for fun my on-line photos:

http://www.flickr.com/photos/martinbrossman/

Great (and Meaningful) Holiday Gift Suggestions

To Benefit the Men’s and Women’s Inquiry & the Triangle Men’s Center

Here are some gift ideas to support the Men’s & Women’s Inquiry as well as The Men’s Center of the Triangle. It costs several hundred dollars a year to maintain the websites, printing and other supplies. I donate 100% of my time.

A copy of the live recording of The Men’s Inquiry on the topic, “What does it mean to be a man of your word?” http://www.toinquire.com/liveinquiry.htm

Any of the “Finding Our Fire” products, such at the “Finding Our Fire” mug.
http://www.cafepress.com/brossman/1175883

A wall calendar with photos I have taken of Coast & Mountains (On special for $13.95):

http://www.cafepress.com/brossman.46439294

A framed picture with my quote about what marriage is:

http://www.cafepress.com/brossman.56107929

A gift certificate from Barbara Carr for an organic spa facial ($60) and she will donate $10 to the Men’s & Women’s Inquiry:

http://www.naturesface.com 

If you would like to help the Triangle Men’s Center, you can purchase the book of local men’s poems, “Men of Their Word” ( I am on page 12) at:
http://www.lulu.com/content/266878

About the book “Finding Our Fire”—it has over 400 pages in a word document and the editing is taking far longer than planned. Also my publisher can not assure that he can get me on Amazon so I am changing publishers to a company owned by Amazon that can. This will delay the final book till after Christmas but a pre-release copy will be offered before in 8X10 size allowing for all pages to be included. I will let you know about that soon if it occurs. 5 people are working to help with this project.

http://www.toinquire.com/findingourfire.htm

If anyone else would like to offer some gift idea for which they would donate part of the money if purchased to The Men’s & Women’s Inquiry or The Men’s Center let me know by the end of this week (including the % donated) and I will send one more note out with that referenced.

Please visit these web sites and forward them to any one that may be interested:

The Women’s Inquiry web site: http://www.thewomensinquiry.com

The Men’s Inquiry web site: http://www.themensinquiry.com

The Blog for Single Mother’s Raising Sons: http://mothersandsons.blogspot.com/

The new Single Fathers Blog: http://singlefathersraisingkids.blogspot.com/

The Blog for the Men’s Inquiry: http://toinquire.blogspot.com/

And of course Barbara ( www.naturesface.com ) and I personally thank you for the referrals for our business and are pleased to provide our home for the Men’s & Women’s Inquiry.

December’s Women’s Inquiry will be on December 12^th 7-9PM , directions at:
www.coachingsupport.com/directions

December’s Men’s Inquiry will be December 20^th 6:30PM at Grand China Buffet on 6 forks road.

Be well,
Martin Brossman
Success Coach / Speaker / Trainer
Martin@...
Raleigh North Carolina Main office:
6260-100 Glenwood Ave., Suite 251
Raleigh . North Carolina 27612 - USA
Phone: 919.847.4757 EST · Fax: 253.322.7523

Washington DC branch office:
4847 Sedgwick St. NW
Washington DC 20016 - USA
Phone: 202.362.3166 EST

"Get Clear, Get in Action & Stay in Action"

The Women's Inquiry will be next Tuesday August 29nd, 7-9PM
The question of the month is: "What is your heart's dream?  Do you
have it now?  If not, what are you doing (without relying on others)
to get it?"

You can find directions at: www.coachingsupport.com/directions

Please come and support Janet Bauer as the new member of the support
team for the Women's Inquiry, she will lead this month with the
support of Barbara and Amy.

Please see the press release about Janet Bauer on the Women's
Inquiry Blog:
http://womensinquiry.blogspot.com/

Thanks,
Barbara, Amy, Janet and Martin
www.thewomensinquiry.com

The Women's Inquiry will not be tomorrow,Tuesday August 22nd, but
will be on Tuesday,August 29th. 7-9PM
Sorry for the delay in getting this message, we just forgot this
weekend to send the email out.

The question of the month will follow in another email!

Thanks,
Barbara, Amy, Janet and Martin

http://www.coachingsupport.com/directions/

Martin Brossman will be leading the discussion. We had a very good
facilitators' meeting after the last Inquiry meeting.  We re-looked at
the vision and direction of the Women's Inquiry, and have two key
things to announce:

1)       Janet Bauer will be joining the team of leaders for the
Women’s Inquiry and  will be an advisor for both the Men’s & Women’s
Inquiry, along with Amy Sky & Barbara Carr Brossman.

2)       We came up with where we are going with the Inquiry as well
as what the key ground rules are. They will be discussed tomorrow, in
addition to our monthly question.


Come to the meeting tonight night to find out all the details!

The question of the month is:

"Where does personal / business networking work and what does not work
with it?”

See you tonight!

Be well,
Martin Brossman
Business / Success Coach
(919) 847-4757
Martin@...
www.CoachingSupport.com

Dear Friends,

Just a reminder, the Women's Inquiry meeting is tomorrow, 7:00 PM, @
Martin & Barbara's home.

http://www.coachingsupport.com/directions/

Natalie created the question of the month & will be facilitating the
meeting.

The question of the month is:

"How do you handle and what are your strategies for handling
disappointments?"

See you tomorrow!

Love,
Barbara & Amy

From Raleigh, take the 440 Outer Loop (WEST/SOUTH).

From I40, take Exit 292, US1 South/64West, toward Sanford.

At the intersection of US1 and 64, take 64 West toward
Apex/Pittsboro.

Go about 4.5 miles to NC55.

Take NC55 West toward Durham.

Go about 1 mile to the traffic light at Old Jenks Road.  A Meineke
Car Care Center and a Tire King are on the left before the traffic
light.

Turn right on Old Jenks Road.

Go about .5 miles to the Charleston Village entrance on Castleburg
Drive on the left.

Turn left on Castleburg Drive.  The clubhouse and pool are on the
right.  Our house is the first house on the left after the 4th left
street.  2007 Castleburg.  The first side of the house you see is
gray-green; the front is yellow with red shutters.  :-)

The house phone is 367-0475.  My cell is 274-5072.

See you there!!

Evelyn

Subject  The women's Inquiry is Tuesday night April 25 7-9PM with a
specal event! And a request for guest leaders...



Amy, Barbara and I meet about twice a year to look at how the Women's
Inquiry is going, and we love the way it is unfolding. We also have a
commitment to having it evolve based on the needs of the members. One
goal we set for 2006 was to have some guest facilitators lead the
group. The basic idea of an 'inquiry' into a topic will still exist,
it?s just that we have so many gifted and powerful women involved
that we would like to see expressing their gifts through leadership.
Both Amy & Barbara will still be in the meeting to support whoever
leads it. If you are interested in leading one of the groups, let us
know by email, to me directly at martin@...  ( I
manage this email list and the database of names).

This meeting will be one of the few where I will be the guest
facilitator. The topic will be "Men, what do we do with them?" A
light hearted but serious inquiry into interacting with men where my
job will be simply facilitating. My intention is that I bring as much
heart to it that Amy & Barbara do, but if I am a few quarts short
they will also be there to support (grin).

I have great respect for this being a 'women's only' meeting and will
only be involved on a very limited basis like this, but ALWAYS in the
background supporting Barbara and Amy.

I hope to see you tomorrow night at 7PM - 9PM . April 25th.

I am also looking for a date for the next joint Men's and Women's
Inquiry and need someone who will find and schedule a no-cost room in
North Raleigh (we filled my house to capacity last time, and expect
an even bigger group this time). If you have interest in it, come to
tomorrow night?s meeting to discuss it.

Three other ideas: The book is still going along strong at
http://www.toinquire.com/findingourfire.htm

I was published in a book of local male poets which is a fund raiser
for the Triangle Men's Center http://www.toinquire.blogspot.com

And I set up a web site to support single women raising sons at:
http://mothersandsons.blogspot.com/

Last, Barbara & I are doing workshop in May 6th ( A Beautiful Future
Starts Today!). To find out more:
http://www.naturesface.com/news.htm  . All of the above help pay for
the place we have the meeting (our house) and the web sites for the
Men's & Women's Inquiry.

Look forward to seeing you!

Be well,
Martin Brossman
Business / Life Coach
(919) 847-4757
Martin@...
www.CoachingSupport.com

Hello all,

Here is the question for this month's meeting:

What are you still holding onto and what are some ways you have
learned to let go?

See you Tuesday!

Directions: http://www.coachngsupport.com/directions

The question of the month is:

How to ask for what you want. When should you ask and when should you
not.

I will post these till we get the new moderator to take it on.

Martin (support for this group)

The in-person meeting is Next Tuesday.

--- In Womens-Inquiry@yahoogroups.com, Margaret Wolfe
<yogaland5@y...> wrote:
> Hi, I need clarification, is the meeting this Tuesday
> night? Thanks.
>
> Margaret
>
> --- Martin Brossman <martin@c...>
> wrote:
>
> > What keeps a long term relationship vibrant and
> > passionate?
> >
> > I am looking for someone in this group to post the
> > questions that Amy &
> > Barbara send out once a month. All you would do is
> > re-post the in-
> > person women's inquiry questions in here.
> >
> > Email me directly if you will help.
> > Martin@C...
> > Thanks
> > Martin Brossman
> >
> >
> >
>
>
>
>
>
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Hi, I need clarification, is the meeting this Tuesday
night? Thanks.

Margaret

--- Martin Brossman <martin@...>
wrote:

> What keeps a long term relationship vibrant and
> passionate?
>
> I am looking for someone in this group to post the
> questions that Amy &
> Barbara send out once a month. All you would do is
> re-post the in-
> person women's inquiry questions in here.
>
> Email me directly if you will help.
> Martin@...
> Thanks
> Martin Brossman
>
>
>





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What keeps a long term relationship vibrant and passionate?

I am looking for someone in this group to post the questions that Amy &
Barbara send out once a month. All you would do is re-post the in-
person women's inquiry questions in here.

Email me directly if you will help.
Martin@...
Thanks
Martin Brossman

-----Original Message-----
From: Margaret Wolfe [mailto:yogaland5@...]
Sent: Thursday, March 31, 2005 3:31 PM
To: yogaland5@...
Subject: [Womens-Inquiry] Fiona Francesca Wolfe-Roberts

Dear all,

We are happy to announce the recent arrival of Fiona
Francesca Wolfe-Roberts, born at 12:06 am on Thursday
March 24, weight 7 lbs 2 oz.  [see attached photos]
She is a happy, healthy baby girl with her mother's
long legs and her father's mouth and hair.  She enjoys
nursing, sleeping, gazing at everything, bouncing, and
making monkey noises.  Her current projects include
learning to laugh, entertaining her parents and
filling diapers. 

Before Fiona's arrival, Margaret was baking bread,
going to the credit union, making soysage, going to
the grocery store, baking sweet potatoes, making phone
calls, going for a walk and occasionally musing about
when it would start in earnest.  Her water broke at
10, and two hours later we had a baby girl.  Fiona was
breathing and pink even before she had come all the
way out, and was left on the cord for 45 minutes to
allow her get used to the world of air gradually.
Margaret's two sisters and parents came by in short
order, and we celebrated with a birthday party for wee
Fiona into the wee hours.   

Though we her parents fretted over little Fiona’s
choice to remain breech, in spite of our many efforts
to turn her, in the end it really was for the best.
Home birth worked well for us as Margaret was able to
labor in familiar surroundings and all were able to
bond with the newborn during the early hours after her
birth.  We feel very fortunate that we were able to
locate a supremely talented and compassionate midwife
who has caught more than 3000 babies during her long
career, including 600 breeches, to attend Fiona’s
birth.  Margaret is glad to have avoided a C-section,
and that she did it all safely and without drugs so
that she could be awake for the first hours with her
daughter.

We've been busy during this first week but Margaret is
recovering quickly, little Fiona is getting milk, and
we are all learning the art of sleeping, eating and
showering when we can.  We hope you can meet her some
time soon.   

Thanks for all your well wishes and support!  She’s
beautiful.  --M


David and Margaret


           
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Dear all,

We are happy to announce the recent arrival of Fiona
Francesca Wolfe-Roberts, born at 12:06 am on Thursday
March 24, weight 7 lbs 2 oz.  [see attached photos]
She is a happy, healthy baby girl with her mother's
long legs and her father's mouth and hair.  She enjoys
nursing, sleeping, gazing at everything, bouncing, and
making monkey noises.  Her current projects include
learning to laugh, entertaining her parents and
filling diapers.

Before Fiona's arrival, Margaret was baking bread,
going to the credit union, making soysage, going to
the grocery store, baking sweet potatoes, making phone
calls, going for a walk and occasionally musing about
when it would start in earnest.  Her water broke at
10, and two hours later we had a baby girl.  Fiona was
breathing and pink even before she had come all the
way out, and was left on the cord for 45 minutes to
allow her get used to the world of air gradually.
Margaret's two sisters and parents came by in short
order, and we celebrated with a birthday party for wee
Fiona into the wee hours.

Though we her parents fretted over little Fiona’s
choice to remain breech, in spite of our many efforts
to turn her, in the end it really was for the best.
Home birth worked well for us as Margaret was able to
labor in familiar surroundings and all were able to
bond with the newborn during the early hours after her
birth.  We feel very fortunate that we were able to
locate a supremely talented and compassionate midwife
who has caught more than 3000 babies during her long
career, including 600 breeches, to attend Fiona’s
birth.  Margaret is glad to have avoided a C-section,
and that she did it all safely and without drugs so
that she could be awake for the first hours with her
daughter.

We've been busy during this first week but Margaret is
recovering quickly, little Fiona is getting milk, and
we are all learning the art of sleeping, eating and
showering when we can.  We hope you can meet her some
time soon.

Thanks for all your well wishes and support!  She’s
beautiful.  --M


David and Margaret



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Melissa,

I love the idea of a snugglefest! How gratifying!

It must be really hard to be suddenly without so many
of the foods you associate with happy holiday times.
When I have had to make changes in my diet I usually
came up with some affirming and direct verbal
statement to myself about what I am choosing (or not)
and why. And I invoke the statement whenever the
emotional pressure is greatest. You might want to
rehearse it ahead of time so you remember it on the
spot--maybe something like "i am making healthy
choices for myself" or "i am really happy to be in the
company of people who are enjoyign themselves" or even
"oh yuck" if you want to reduce the temptation for
something you can't have (complete with subtle
wrinkling of the nose LOL!). And you can also, on the
spot and under duress (ie the smell is really making
you salivate!) actively recall the itching or whatever
your unpleasant reaction has been to that particular
food. Makes the yearning lessen.

Other traditions...Hm. we really enjoyed carolling
from house to house when I was a kid. Doing something
generous for other folks...a meditation ceremony for
the solstice with fire/drumming or other introspective
activities...focussing on the natural beauty of the
season with a walk in the woods, cutting snowflakes
from tissue paper...some ideas for you

good luck! Margaret





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