This list is for people who need support because they are coping with someone in their life who has borderline personality disorder (or traits of BPD). This can cause much anxiety, depression, confusion, isolation, etc. People on this list know what you're going through and are here to help!

This list is mainly for non-BP partners: married, single, gay or straight. You can also join lists for partners in specific kinds of situations such as staying or divorcing. We also offer more specialized lists for adult children of BPD parents; parents with BPD offspring; grandparents, siblings, people coparenting with a BP ex, Christians, GLBT, men only, women only, and professionals. See BPDCentral.com.

Before joining this list must read the guidelines and agree to them before posting. The guidelines also contain technical instructions. YOU MUST POST ANONYMOUSLY; get a web-based email address if you need to.

Welcome to our list! See the guidelines ASAP for suggested books you can read to understand the lingo, recognize common relationship interactions, and recommended steps you take to better handle your relationship. First off, you need to have a copy of "Stop Walking on Eggshells" (SWOE) and the "Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook" (SWOEW).

Other booklets and such we refer to often are:

* The ABC’S of BPD: The Basics of Borderline Personality Disorder for Beginners

* Love and Loathing: Protecting Your Mental Health and Legal Rights When Your Partner has BPD.

* Splitting: Protecting Yourself When Divorcing a BP

* Splitting CDs: A companion to the above book, a 2-CD discussion with the author, William A. Eddy.

* You're My World: A Non's Guide to Custody Disputes (CD) (also known as "the Custody Tapes")

* Hope for Parents: Helping Your BP Child Without Sacrificing Your Family or Yourself

The booklets above are NOT available in bookstores; only by calling 888-357-4355 (888-35-SHELL). You can look at the tables of contents at BPDCentral.com.