--- In WSSA@yahoogroups.com, "Sandy" <znandra40@...> wrote:
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> I couple of weeks ago we received a phone call from Nathans school reporting
to us that something serious had happened in school involving Nathan! As you
can imagine we rushed to the school were we were told had `attacked a little
girl in his class! I was filled with horror at the mere thought of it, luckily
the little girl wasn't hurt thank god, but she was upset and crying! so we took
him home there and then…after sitting him down and taking to him it turns out
that he attacked her because she was just sitting in his `chair'…no one at that
point had realized that he had focused so much on his chair (Nathan has many
autistic traits)
>
> The following day we had a meeting with his teacher and the special needs
teacher etc they reported that even if they move anything around in his class
room it upsets and unsettles him for a few days. To cut a long story short the
school is pushing us to get some sort of diagnosis for autism or aspersers in
relation to Nathans behaviour .
>
> A week later we had an appointment with community paediatrician and she gave
us 2 phone numbers to ring even though people who get these numbers usually have
a diagnosis (autistic nurse who can put us in touch with various services that
can help with this behaviour) now Iv had these numbers for 2 days and I still
haven't rang them yet… why? probably because I am frightened of being rejected
because Nathan hasn't a diagnosis for autism they may not help us and if they
don't…well I just don't know what we will do? ….I'm in such a confused state I
didn't know how to react I didn't know what to say to Nathan I even didn't know
how to punish him as he does not fully understand what he actually did! I think
I need help and some advise…if it was you what would you do in this situation?
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> Sandy xxx
>
Hello I am the mother of Shane I don't post very much but I felt the urge to do
so this time. See my Shane has autism also (Aspergers to be exact) and he has
some of the same issues also. But by getting a true dx it has helped because we
have ABA tutoring ans such and the teachers know what to expect of him. I know
it is hard to deal with I went through all the same emotions. I asked God why
did he have to add one more thing to my sons plate. See Shane as about 10
diffrent diagnosis any where from Weaver's to asthma to low IQ, but then I
realized the reason was God had plans for him. Anyways what I am trying to say
is get a diagnosis of Autism or PDD and jsut do like we did for Weavers,
research, hit it head on and see if your area has a Walk for Autism group or any
kind of support group (some groups will let you join even before you get a
diagnosis). You may also want to talk to his teachers and make an area in his
class that does belong to him and ask them if the are going to rearrange things
give him warning(like a day or a few hours beforehand) so he can adjust. We
have to do that even for Dr. appt and such. It is true they do not adjust well.
Hope it helps
Danielle Auvenshine Georgia USA)
mother of Shane