I couple of weeks ago we received a phone call from Nathans school reporting to
us that something serious had happened in school involving Nathan! As you can
imagine we rushed to the school were we were told had `attacked a little girl in
his class! I was filled with horror at the mere thought of it, luckily the
little girl wasn't hurt thank god, but she was upset and crying! so we took him
home there and then…after sitting him down and taking to him it turns out that
he attacked her because she was just sitting in his `chair'…no one at that point
had realized that he had focused so much on his chair (Nathan has many autistic
traits)

The following day we had a meeting with his teacher and the special needs
teacher etc they reported that even if they move anything around in his class
room it upsets and unsettles him for a few days. To cut a long story short the
school is pushing us to get some sort of diagnosis for autism or aspersers in
relation to Nathans behaviour .

A week later we had an appointment with community paediatrician and she gave us
2 phone numbers to ring even though people who get these numbers usually have a
diagnosis (autistic nurse who can put us in touch with various services that can
help with this behaviour) now Iv had these numbers for 2 days and I still
haven't rang them yet… why? probably because I am frightened of being rejected
because Nathan hasn't a diagnosis for autism they may not help us and if they
don't…well I just don't know what we will do? ….I'm in such a confused state I
didn't know how to react I didn't know what to say to Nathan I even didn't know
how to punish him as he does not fully understand what he actually did! I think
I need help and some advise…if it was you what would you do in this situation?

Sandy xxx