--- In WSSA@yahoogroups.com, "Sandy" <znandra40@...> wrote:
>
> Allow me to thank you both for your kind words and food for
thought,
> its much appreciated
>
> Jenny you mention some thing that made me ask myself a few
> questions...I'm not to sure whether Nathan is aware that he
> has 'Weavers' even though we have told him in the most simple of
> terms also I really don't think he is aware that he does differ
from
> the other children! maybe that's a small failing on our part and
> maybe its time for Paul and I to tell Nathan a bit more so we can
> prepare him for things such as these? Nathan asked us why the kids
> called him 'BIG HEAD' our response was to answer him with 'Because
> you have bigger brains' I'm really glad you have mentions this
Jenny
> I truly am, because it gives me something to build on, before I
felt
> rather lost to what to do next...thank you
>
> April you have a wonderful way of illustrating empathy and you can
be
> certain that I will pass on those 'games' onto Nathans teachers,
> thank you. Our schools don't have councillors but we do have
> additional needs teachers working along side the regular teaching
> staff. Nathan was looked after/watched over by a support work
> assigned solely to him during break times and lunch hour! however
it
> was decided that he no longer 'needed' such support and that
service
> was with drawn and since than it seems that all this trouble
started,
>
> Apart of me thinks, ok, he has to learn how to deal with the world
> and all that it throws his way and he will need the skills
necessary
> to be able to do that! but then I think and know in my heart that
he
> simply can not cope with all this, he may be turning 7 next month
but
> it feels like I have a 3yr old do you know what I mean? and no one
> would expect a child of 3/4yrs to cope with a situation he has to
> face recently.
>
> Once again girls many thanks I feel I have some strategise to work
> and focus on, Thank you both
>
>
> Sandy x x x x
>

Dear Sandy,
I know what you mean about the 7yr-3yr thing. Only I have a
3yr. old who looks like a 6 yr. old but acts like a terrible twoer. I
don't know what age I'm supposed to be addressing most times! I do
know that I would love to wrap him in a blanket of love and keep him
from all the down right cruel ***holes he'll meet in life, excuse the
language. I do remember one time last year, Earl was mastering
stairs, not doing great but progressing, there was a group of kids,
teenagers, and they thought it was just the funniest thing in the
world watching this little boy struggle up our apartment steps. I was
so mad I could've beaten everyone of those brats, but I just focused
on Earl and praised him when he got to the top....then I realized
what he was going to have to hear growing up,things like dummy,and
retarded(which means held back). Then I realized that my son was
delayed, he was given a bum deal and it slows him down. The people
that were given perfectly healthy bodies and brains but don't have
the decency or common sense to use them for something a little more
productive than taunting young kids, are the ones being held back not
our boys. Yeah, so our kids have big heads, so maybe they don't quite
learn as fast as everyone else in the class,so what, they're going to
catch up in their own sweet time,and I have a feeling that when it
comes to important things like sense of
self,compassion,generosity,and love they will be far more advanced
then some others. These are very special kids each and everyone of
them,and not because of what they have,but because of what they will
endure and who they will become!!!!!Love you all!!Jenny