It really doesn't sound hard and cold to me -- I am in the process of going
through therapy and trying to get to the point of setting boundaries and
sticking to them. I have wrestled a lot with how far I can go with this whole
thing -- he also intends to follow through with a sex change. We found out
through his facebook that he and this guy are now engaged -- he didn't have the
decency to tell us. Apparently, there are a lot of issues going on with him --
he has major entitlement issues. I am reaching the point where I have to worry
about my emotional health, as well as physical, along with my husband's and
younger daughter's. I have decided that I cannot trust either my son or his
friend. His friend has not told his parents that he's gay or in a relationship
with my son, so he is actually lying to all of us. Thank you for replying to my
question -- it helps to know that someone else feels the same way. This is such
a hard road to navigate through!