It might just be me, but I think if my child had sex in my bed, that would
really upset me. And to do it after he was told "NO COMPANY" is even worse. Your
son is old enough to understand and obey the rules. And his "friend" had to have
known he wasn't supposed to be there also. So you now have trust issues from
both kids. Seems like they're trying to prove something. Trying to see how much
they can get away with. Doesn't matter if their gay or straight. It was wrong
and a great show of disrespect.

What they do under their own roof, is their business. But what they do under
YOUR roof is yours. They both, in my opinion, have shown a great disrespect to
you.

Personally, I would allow no more company. They need to earn your trust back and
show respect. What your other son and his girlfriend did has no bearing on this.
Did they cause you mistrust of their relationship? Do they still have your
respect? I have allowed unmarried couples in my home for the night -- but NOT in
the same room. Because I don't believe in that!

I am sure this is all agonizing for you. But will your son love and respect you
more for allowing him to get away with his wants, or more because you won't
compromise your beliefs?

You are going to have to make a choice that is comfortable for you. No one can
tell you what to do because what might be right for me, may be wrong for you.
This is all just food for thought.

I have compromised my beliefs and expectations in the past when it comes to my
kids and their partners, etc. I won't do it anymore. If my child chooses to
abandon us because we don't allow certain things, then so be it.

I know this sounds hard and cold, but to tell you the truth, it took YEARS to
get to this point.

Take care and I know you'll do what's right for you. I am sorry you are going
thru this.

Tracee'