Thank you for your email.  You are right about all the emotions.  It has been quite hard.  I feel like our daughter has come out of the closet and we have stepped in to hide so to speak.  It has been a hard process.  I immediately looked for some counseling around our area but the ones in our town were people we knew and we couldn't go there  plus it was hard to find a counselor that has dealt with parents that had gay children.  But, I did find one in another town and talked with him.  Of course, I was wanting an immediate fix.   If you are a Christian your principals get challenged.  I am not willing to change my family beliefs in order to accept her life style but I am willing to love her, which I do immensely.   Her dad has not sought counseling and has withdrawn.   We have not told anyone.  None of our friends or extended family.  Her brothers know but that's it.  It is hard to understand and it's hard not to blame yourself and ask where did we go wrong?  However, I am trying to keep the doors of communication open and so is she.  It's strained somewhat because I feel like we don't have the same things in common any more and we just small talk.  It's a shame.

I think I will try to find the book that David requested.  I have read a couple of other ones she has written.  Stick a geranium in your hat and Cesspools of Life.  Those 2 books talked about her son lifestyle and some of how she dealt with it.  Again, thank you for writing me.  God Bless.

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