As the parent of a trans-gender, the only thing I can tell you to do is love him, love him and love him. There is nothing you can say to change his mind. Believe me, I know. The more you try to change him, the worse it gets. Only God can change him. We went through a year of our son not wanting to have anything to do with us. We kept telling and showing him that we loved him no matter what, until he finally believed us. Get so involved with your son, that he has no doubt you love him no matter what he does.  This does not mean you agree with him, but that you have love for him, just as God has love for us, no matter what we do.

Our son first came out as gay and then 6 years later came out as trans-gender. It was like going through 2 deaths. The worse part is not having anyone to talk to about it. I think trans-gender is the loneliest hurt for a parent there is. You think, what did we do wrong? He was raised in a Christian home with 3 other brothers and a Dad who has been very involved and is still very close to him. His brothers are the complete opposite of him. He doesn't fit the stereotype. You can just beat yourself up trying to figure it out, but all that does is get you down, which is not God's will for you.

Our son looks like a beautiful woman, you can not tell he is a she, but I only see the son we raised. He says the same thing about not being happy about being a boy, but he never expressed that to us growing up. You need to be there for your daughter because it is very confusing for her and is like losing a brother. Don't know your name, but will be praying for you.