Since we've been talking of awareness lately, I'd like to pose an exercize for everyone here. I think that once we become aware of what's stopping us from our...
Sam Rau
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Jul 1, 2007 11:32 pm
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Mine is the fear of humiliation, of being put down, of being rejected, and of not fitting in. When looked at logically, my fears are much greater than the ...
Hmmm, interesting to try to define it. My problem is definitely with larger social gatherings. A general failure to connect with people. I easily perceive...
Awareness is defiantly a great start i find I get stuck in a rut sometimes where i just don't feel up to trying to improve. But at the moment I'm back on the...
since you asked, I have a published book I need to promote. but since this isn't the place and it's a little tacky, I wasn't sure about telling you all. As for...
I was really pleased to receive all of your emails in my inbox this morning; it's been the most mails on here in a while, I'd be willing to bet. I'm glad to...
Sam Rau
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Jul 2, 2007 4:36 pm
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Thanks for your help. I completely agree with the "map is not the territory" idea. In fact, I'll go so far as to say the Earth DOES NOT revolve around the Sun....
All would be fine if I didn't blush. I'm easily flustered, especially at work with authority figures. A simple question might signal the fight or flight...
Another thing to consider is that all is fine if you do blush, too. Some people get over this by taking Niacin supplements, which causes them to blush all the...
I agree with a lot of what you said what frame of mind I'm in really affects how i precieve rejection eg if I'm in a positive frame and i feel things are going...
Well it seems to me there are two (interacting) dynamics going on when one feels/fears rejection in groups. The first is a heightened perception of negative...
Sam, thanks for your post. What are the best ways of changing one's map (or set of beliefs)? There are people that enter social situations and do fine, and the...
I point out that the map is not the teretory to explain how what we think is real isn't really what's going on, although our experiencing this map (and...
Sam Rau
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Jul 9, 2007 6:32 pm
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What is it that "causes" you to blush in certain situations? I would begin to get curious about what situations trigger this, and I would watch for when I...
Sam Rau
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Jul 9, 2007 6:39 pm
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I've always been shy and have had problems with feedback from people, unfortunately often times this results in my not getting feedback even if I'm doing a...
Sam Rau
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Jul 9, 2007 7:02 pm
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This is just a quick response for now, but my thing would be something similar to rejection. Be it that there is a group of people that I'd want to hang out...
I really appreciate your honesty here, as it sounds as if you're aware of how you create these situations, or at least are aware of how you're "doing" these...
Sam Rau
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Jul 9, 2007 7:25 pm
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If your really curious about this, I'd check out http://www.centerpointe.com/life/preview for the full story. As I said I'm fairly new at this stuff, so my...
Sam Rau
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Jul 9, 2007 7:44 pm
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... I know for certain I've experienced something like this in another situation. I used to be so shy that asking people for directions on the street was ...
I've noticed this in myself as well, especially when entering a new group of people. I've found that often times, especially when a group of people is already...
Sam Rau
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Jul 10, 2007 5:47 pm
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I think that whatever map we decide to use in a given situation will work. For example you noticed that now you can easily do something which had haulted you...
Sam Rau
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Jul 10, 2007 6:16 pm
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What causes me to blush is the attention I think. I don't like all eyes on me. A recent example happened two days ago when I was having lunch with my husband...
You don't really forget about it. I think that some people are just very sensitive to physical changes. Like going out in the rain. Some people like it....
Melissa, Are you afraid of the blushing or afraid of being vulnerable? I kinda feel that way with sneezing. It's involuntary and hate having someone say god ...
There are two steps here. (1) you blush, (2) you feel bad about the blushing. Of course they feedback to make each other worse. I think when people initially...
What's so bad about getting attention from people? After all, I'm giving you attention right now, and you're not blushing are you? C'mon, be honest. Just...
Sam Rau
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Jul 11, 2007 4:01 am
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I think that it's better to act even if your action stinks--although it usually doesn't--than to not act at all. Often times I find myself waiting and waiting...
Sam Rau
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Jul 11, 2007 3:07 pm
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I think that it's better to act even if your action stinks--although it usually doesn't--than to not act at all. Often times I find myself waiting and waiting...
Sam Rau
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Jul 11, 2007 3:08 pm
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I think that it's better to act even if your action stinks--although it usually doesn't--than to not act at all. Often times I find myself waiting and waiting...
Sam Rau
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Jul 11, 2007 3:10 pm
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Hello, I'm a new member to the group. I just wanted to introduce myself and say that I'm very glad to have found this group, and I look forward to ...
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