Hi, this is my first time posting here. I've read through a couple of posts, and this looks like a good group. Everyone seems very supportive. My question...
... Its probably best to look at this objectively unless someone has told you directly they dont like talking to you then you have no evidence that this is...
The cognitive part is crucial if you're going to be experimenting with things an it sounds like you're willing to which is great. It makes the difference...
One big thing which has improved my social skills is my initiating things more. All to often I find that I wait for someone to come up to me and talk, which...
Sam Rau
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Dec 18, 2006 8:49 pm
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It's always great hearing from you again. Your words are wise....
Thanks; I appreciate that! I had to unsubscribe for a while, and I just recently signed up again. I meant to say hi to everyone, but things have been pretty...
Sam Rau
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Dec 19, 2006 7:21 pm
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I haven't always been able to see this, but more recently I'll be walking away from some encounter where maybe I had some unpleasant feeling come up somewhere,...
I've learned that whenever we have bad feelings, it's usually due to us focusing on what we don't want. For example, I might be focused on not screwing up the...
Sam Rau
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Dec 20, 2006 7:33 pm
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Yes, this seems to be widely accepted in the fields of psychology and spirituality. In my experience, as soon as an opportunity comes to screw up something...
Hi juls_lilly! Being prepared and knowing what to say when the opportunity arises is very important. Ask the person you want to talk to questions about ...
hi everyone please go visite www.sosuave.net I think it has what each one of guys needs to learn about relationships with ladies. if you did go there, visit...
What is this site mainly for? I don't have much time right now, and didn't have a chance to look at it in detail, but it appears to be a site about advise for...
Sam Rau
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Jan 16, 2007 5:07 am
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well, this started out an advice and support site for socializing in general. When I was last posting on it it deteriorated into a poison pen pal site, and no...
Yeah, I know what ya mean. I had to unsubscribe for a while-- I had some email troubles-- and it seems that, unfortunately, it came at just the wrong time for...
Samuel D Rau
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Jan 18, 2007 7:26 pm
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I'm sorry I was away from my computer for a while. I hate to reply late! but I hope you still read this. yes I totally agree with you. the price for staying...
I've found that to be successful at something, I've gotten a lot out of modeling what it is that people who are successes in the areas in which I would like to...
Samuel D Rau
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Feb 8, 2007 7:37 pm
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thanks for the helpful message. there was some really good and new points. I am very much interested to get more help from you. and I appreciate it if you're...
I like talking to people who have been where I was, and who understand what I then thought nobody understood. But if you'd like help with something, you have...
Sam Rau
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Feb 19, 2007 3:07 pm
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I hope somebody can help me, because I have a problem that no psychology book contains and I have never met or even heard of anybody with my problem. 10 years...
There is a pattern with me and I was wondering if anyone else has the same problem. I cannot figure out what to say fast enough for the conversation! Many...
You need to read more. I still have the same problem as you are describing. But Im improving quickly. What I do.... 1) read alot of books 2) listen to...
I'm a bulky person and i want to burn fat and maintain, whatever muscle i have what should i do. Should i do dropset or should i do moderate weights and high...
I used to have the same problem--feeling as if I was awkward around people--and I can understand what a problem this might cause. I think that the biggest...
Sam Rau
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Apr 3, 2007 6:02 pm
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I also often have the same problem--it kind of sneaks up on me--so I'd also appreciate any advice yall have to give. ... From: federal_gas To:...
Sam Rau
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Apr 3, 2007 6:10 pm
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... shyness ... You aren't slow-witted, honey. You are just too pre-occupied with your anxiety about every past witticism that went unuttered to relax and ...
If you are up for it, Improv Theater lessons are great for this. I'm still amazed that they can teach people to react quickly and be spontaneous. I figured...
Hi Sweetheart!! I hope that you take this advice to heart because once you find something to be happy about you won't be able to stop smiling. I had a similar...
There are lots of options in that area, as well as most major cities. http://comedysportzsanjose.com/workshops.html is one. In San Francisco and Palo Alto...
I took an improv class for beginners several years ago that was offered in a local college's adult continuing education division (NY area). I took it for the...