Thanks for posting; I always feel good when new people write in here. I think that you have already taken a step towards coming out of your shell, as (I can...
Sam Rau
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Aug 1, 2006 4:15 pm
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Thank you for taking the time to respond to my post. Changing my ways and how I see the world has not been easy but I am making progress. i think I just needed...
I was typing this here to someone, so i thought i'd post it here too. I have never had a gf, and it makes it very hard to be friends with a gir1 because just...
I think that the best advice I can give is to just not worry about it; much easier said than done, I know, but it's truth. I know that in my experience I have...
Sam Rau
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Aug 9, 2006 2:40 pm
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okay, tough problem. Let's boil it down to the simple issue here. First off, the fact that you want to date every girl you meet suggests you're love and/or sex...
I think that there's a lot of good stuff in here, especially the part about what benifit we're looking for in situations. I think that if we can clarify what...
Sam Rau
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Aug 11, 2006 3:22 pm
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I've been meditating quite a bit lately, and I find that as time goes on I'm more able to handle hings. We can come up with all the advice in the world, but...
Sam Rau
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Aug 11, 2006 3:29 pm
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unfortunately my version of 'self-help' isn't in books and I'd rather not talk about it (hey, everyone does it). What gets me is I honestly don't understand...
I don't want to say that I "know" what you're going through, as I'm not in your situation, but I think I can empathise with you as I've "been there" before...
Sam Rau
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Aug 12, 2006 4:07 pm
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what does that even mean? if humans weren't social animals we'd all be living isolated in caves somewhere and probably would have died out as a species. It's...
You're asking yourself the question "Why me?". That's what's wrong. You won't start getting what you want until you start asking yourself the question "How ...
I've been doing that for fifteen years, and acting on whatever inspiration I come up with, but for reasons that totally escape me nothing seems to work. Bob...
Well, what would be a small thing that you want? I gather it is some sort of social interaction, but what would you choose as your first goal to work towards?...
I finally had the time this weekend to check this out, and I am amazed with the lengths and thought put into these responses. To clarify, I am not looking for...
There is nothing wrong with you, as there's nothing wrong with me, but sometimes people feel like there is. I'm trying to be more aware of how I come off to...
Sam Rau
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Aug 14, 2006 3:03 pm
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This E-mail made me smile. I'm glad to hear that you went out and did that; this is exactly what we should be doing. ... From: Will To:...
Sam Rau
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Aug 14, 2006 3:10 pm
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I've realized that perhaps all this time when I've felt like there's something missing from my life, that's a spiritual component; I promissed myself I...
Sam Rau
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Aug 14, 2006 3:13 pm
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Thanks! I was out there. But I acting like i usually do, barely said a word to anyone there. Which kinda bummed me out. i can't make small talk. It's like...
You can plan it out in advance, always saying exactly the same thing. I, and 3 other shy people I know, practice by going around town asking people "Excuse ...
I think that even though you didn't talk much at least you did it, and it wasn't that bad (a lot better than if you hadn't gone anyway). And the next time I...
Sam Rau
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Aug 15, 2006 9:55 pm
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I think that even though you didn't talk much at least you did it, and it wasn't that bad (a lot better than if you hadn't gone anyway). And the next time I...
Sam Rau
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Aug 15, 2006 9:59 pm
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hi group I'm new here i've got something to discuss. well as a shy person I don't have any close friends, no matter guys or girls, whom I can really count on...
Many/most therapists do not understand social anxiety. It is important to start slow. Do something small that is only a little challenging. That will depend on...
my counsellor doesn't understand it. she just wants to put me on pills. When pills offer no help to what i want changed. If you want to try this out..download...
It's really hard to be good at social situations when your confidence is low. I say this because I feel like this is going on with me right now. I feel like...
Sam Rau
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Aug 29, 2006 6:22 pm
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Yeah I just mean the point you mentioned, the therapy finally reaches a point where we have to go for experiences too painful. you know, for body fitness,...
This is necessary for me to post some personal info: I had a bad religious upbringing which caused me depression and suicide, basically it plus getting to...
If you think you need to "go for experiences too painful", you need to break things into smaller steps. I supposed it is good if you can just go for the big...
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