Hi there,

Well I have spent the last two hours scanning amazon for books to
help me deal with shyness, self esteem etc etc and one way or
another I have ended up here. I'm 33 and on many accasions
(particulary with the opposite sex), I suffer from bashfullness so
severe I am totally and utterly toungue tied - which leads to upset
and feelings of being inept - which makes me more toungue tied etc
etc. I have found several titles which I am hoping will help
somewhat including "being nice at a price" (the forward to this one
seems to describe me to a tee), "how to raise your self esteem", and
several others on shyness. Its somewhat comforting to know I'm know
I'm not the only one who has reached adulthood and found myself
helping other people to the point of upsetting myself - simply
because it seems easier to help friends than help myself. Shyness
has been a demon in my life for far too long, and whether lonliness
is a contributing factor or simply the result of it - I am sure that
is something I will deal with to. In my own mind I sometimes likend
my shyness to the severe stutter a friend of mine used to have ...
the harder he tried to talk - the worse it got, the worse it got the
more upset he became, the more upset he became - the more severe the
stutter. The only difference being - my stutter seems to be prior to
the words coming out of my mouth - rather than after. (I am hoping
someone here knows what i mean - because i appreciate it may sound
foolish :/). I'm going to try and find out about how to deal with
these things with the hope that my life might make a turn in a
positive direction.

Anyway, I just wanted to say Hi, and mention that I'm glad
Ive 'bumped' into you by accident.

Kind regards
Chris