Therapy may seem weird at first, if you're not used to it, but it's a very safe environment to be talking about your feelings in - Therapists tend to be very nonjudgemental. They're not going to make you feel like a bad person or an idiot. Plus they're legally bound to keep what you say secret except under very extreme circumstances - basically, if you're about to become physically violent.

steve

ps. To people who have been/are currently going to therapy, what is it like?
It all sounds sort of...seedy? Maybe not the word but I can't think of
another. I've never been able to talk to anyone openly about my feelings or
issues or anything like that unless I am considerably drunk. I'd feel
embarrassed and just a tad weird explaining all that to a complete stranger
face to face.

>Message: 3
>    Date: Mon, 22 Apr 2002 10:08:52 -0000
>    From: "jon_clark_19115" <jonclark@...>
>Subject: Anyone else unable to seperate personality from avoidance?
>
>First, yes I'm new here.
>
>Been sort of shy all my life.  Now I'm 33 going on 34 and in a real
>bind.  I'm in therapy for a few reasons, but most it seems to stem
>back to my lack of a social life.
>
>Problem is I can't tell just what type of social life I want.  My
>interests and lifestyle are pretty solitary. I work second shift
>which puts me in work at the time most people are hanging out after
>work, but these are the hours i like because I'm not a morning
>person.  I spend most of my time on the computer, watching TV or
>reading and I really enjoy these activities except for the fact I
>have few people to share them with.
>
>And I can't tell if that is by choice or if I kind of retreated into
>my own little world over time to avoid uncomfortable social
>situations.  I can't tell if i should try forcing myself to change my
>lifestyle (which I enjoy) to increase my ability to socialize.  Or if
>I'd be better off trying to find people who share my limited range of
>interests.
>
>So I'm wondering if anyone else out there finds themsleves at the
>same impass of having adapted so well to not socializing that they
>can't tell where their own intersts start and the defense mechanisms
>end.
>
>Jon
>
>
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