What's up with me socially?  Well, some things changed and some things havent.  I've been prescribed Prozac.  I took myself off it after 3 months because I noticed it changed my....sexual... habits...  I also read a article on MSNBC about Drugs like Prozac inhibiting falling in love.  And since that was the main reason I was taking it.  I stopped taking it after I read that. 

 

I tried out this online dating thing for about a year...  It hasn't been totally good to me.  Though recently I've been talking on the phone with someone from there who lives about 2 hours away.  It's great to chat.  That's about the most I got out of it.  Never developed any relationships from there. 

 

I went to this place called xandu caberet.  I liked the idea of the place.  To summarize, you pay for a person's company.  You walk in. Grab a table.  Order dinner if you want.  And a girl who works there sits down with you and chats.  You can buy her drinks, non-alcoholic, which basically a tip to her for sitting and chatting. 

 

I found it a great way of talking and opening up to people.  It was a million times better than the $80/hour professional I went to for the issue.  I got more spending just $4, then 5 hours seeing the professional.  I just been having a hard time spending money just to talk and be friendly with someone.  But, as long as I am in the mindset of "practice".  It's amazing. 

 

What I am currently struggling with is being lonely and single...  Compounded with the shyness..  It's taking a toll on me mentally. 

 

I hope that wasn't a too long of a response haha. 

 

I haven't seen you online in forever Sam..  DId you change your AOL instant messeger screenname? 

 

 

On 6/13/07, Sam Rau <sam.rau@...> wrote:

I was wondering where everyone had gone...  I haven't heard from anyone on here, and wanted to check and see how everyone is.  Has anyone had some good experiences with social stuff lately; ya know like talking good and stuff? :-)  Things have been going great for me lately in all areas of life, however I'm finding that I'm much more confident in social situations now.  I'm finding, hard as it may be to believe, that I'm now able to talk to people and keep the conversation going.  I've noticed that, rather than feeling awkward about pauses or lags in the conversation, lately I feel good by just putting myself out there and going with it (whatever it is).  I find that most often others are more nervous--ore at least as nervous--than I am, and that I no longer need to feel awkward because I don't worry about whether or not I'm doing something wrong or not.  I've tried to stop evaluating things based on whether they're the "right" or "wrong" thing and rather evaluate things on whether they're resourceful for me or not--feeling anxious because I'm not sure what the "correct" thing to say isn't very resourceful--and I'm finding it easier and easier as time goes on.  Dare I say fun? :-)

 

At any rate, I wanted to find out how others are doing and ended up rambling on about myself.  Please don't let me dominate this conversation; let's hear what's up with you?

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From: Will

To: SocialFitnessForum@yahoogroups.com

Sent: Monday, June 11, 2007 7:43 PM

Subject: Re: [SocialFitnessForum] Hello?

 

I am Sam.  haha. 

On 6/8/07, Sam Rau <sam.rau@...> wrote:

Is there anybody out there?