thats really good advice and I have thought about it before. In fact when I
was on anxiety medidcation and I was more outgoing. perhaps I should get
back on it, but I'd rather do it without drugs if at all possible. I am
trying to practice just relaxing, but its so conditioned for me too speak
quickly that a premature thought comes out and usually dosn't make any
sense.


>From: "rlridley" <rlridley@...>
>Reply-To: SocialFitnessForum@yahoogroups.com
>To: SocialFitnessForum@yahoogroups.com
>Subject: [SocialFitnessForum] Re: I can never seem to figure out what to
>say fast enough
>Date: Fri, 06 Apr 2007 06:21:57 -0000
>
>--- In SocialFitnessForum@yahoogroups.com, "federal_gas" <kant4545@...>
>wrote:
> >
> > There is a pattern with me and I was wondering if anyone else has the
> > same problem. I cannot figure out what to say fast enough for the
> > conversation! Many times after a conversation I will think of a great
> > comment or question, but never during the conversation. This is so
> > frustrating. I guess I am slow witted. This problem then causes
>shyness
> > because of all the failed conversations. Does anyone know how to deal
> > with this issue?
> >
>
>You aren't slow-witted, honey. You are just too pre-occupied with your
>anxiety about every past witticism that went unuttered to relax and
>just let the conversation flow. Stop obsessing on what you didn't say
>in the past, because as far as the other person is concerned you
>probably appeared perfectly intelligent. In fact, this is one instance
>where it is perfectly okay to be like George W. Bush, he sounds like an
>idiot every time that he doesn't have a scripted speech and he has to
>speak off the cuff. Yet despite the fact that his every utterance is
>being preserved for posterity he persists in displaying his complete
>and total ignorance of everything on this earth. You should also adopt
>a nonchalant attitude towards what you say in public, because I am
>almost certain that whatever comes out of your mouth won't be half as
>bad as the dreck that spews forth from that moron. He's the one who
>needs to watch what he says, you really don't need to worry that much.
>Just forget about the past, take a breath, relax and let the
>conversation flow.
>

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